- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I got married 4 days ago and already there is family drama, awesome!
So, on the day of, I had a big of tunnel vision, so I wasn’t really aware of anyone’s behavior or even thd majority of who was there, but I had a good time. However, two days ago, my mom came to drop some stuff off, and became very upset. She informed me that she was unable to see ANY of the ceremony. My mom had been working very hard on the wedding, paying for all of it, included my dad’s tux and his family’s hotel room.
Apparently, right before the ceremony, my stepmother’s kids were sitting in the seats assigned for my mom and stepdad. The wedding planner made them move and told then those seats were assigned. When she left, however, my stepmom let her kids go right back to the seats. So, when my mom wallied down the aisle, she had to sit at the far aisle, her view completely obscured.
When my husband (!!!) and I heard about this, we were pissed. We wrote her a very blunt, but respectful email asking for an apology. Unfortunately, this did not go over well.
She has a history of being manipulative and demanding of respect (But does not give it) She had in the past gotten upset about being unable to attend my coudin’s wedding because I needed a ride and there wasn’t enough room in the vehicle (we had given them plenty of time to make other plans). I didn’t even know it was a problem until I got in the car to go to the wedding. I was asked to apologize because I caused her great inconvenience.
There was another incident where we arrived late to a Xmas party (the start time was 4 and it was just a casual family party and we had to travel to get there) and caused my cousin to have to wait before starting activities (they started an hour after we arrived anyways and her husband arrived after us).
After we sent her the email, her only response was “DELETE!” And then she unfriended me on Facebook. Her and my dad then attacked my mom via text. They said they did nothing wrong and thinks that my mom is trying to “prevent my dad from being happy.” Even the wedding planner called them and let my dad know that she did, in fact, move the children and point out that those seats were reserved, but my dad basically believes my stepmom over everyone.
We sent another email, pointing out that we had wanted to discuss this without drama and directly (they never responded to us, only texted my mom, who wasnt involved in the email), but I’m just unsure as how to proceed. I am baffled and stunned as to how someone can behave so poorly and disrespectfully. Who in their right mind prevents the mother of the bride from seeing the wedding and when called out on it, simply unfriends the bride, her husband’s daughter?
I just don’t know what the next steps are. I hate drama and conflict and hate that my mom is beinfo so hurt by all this.