(Closed) stepsiblings

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have stepsiblings. But I never talk to them and dont really consider them family. The reason??

My father only got married to his recent wife last year. She has three adult kids. So they dont really feel like siblings at all. All grown kids on both sides. lol

Anyway, you can invite whoever you want. But be ready for your stepmother to be pissed. Which it sounds like you are.

Hope it works out.

Post # 4
2343 posts
Buzzing bee

@Allie99:  I’m not close to my step brother at all and we lived together for several years. I talk to him every once in a while and occasionally he likes a picture of my daughter on fb, but he’s never even met her (she’s 18 months old)

Post # 6
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have three step sisters but I am only close with one.  She is also my Maid/Matron of Honor.  I love her to death.

Post # 7
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Allie99:  I don’t understand why your step mother gets upset when you say you’re an only child, you are an only child. Your step sister is only a part of your life because of your father marrying her mother. If they divorced she’d be a stranger to you. If you aren’t close to her, don’t invite her to your intimate wedding. Doesn’t sound like she will even mind not being invited.

Post # 8
6592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Allie99:  I have two stepsisters and one half sister. I still consider myself to be an only child because I was 13 before I met my steps and my half sis is 17 years younger than me.

Post # 9
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have a step sister and two step brothers. I love my step sister and one of step brothers to death (they are full brother and sister)  but, we all grew up together with my mum and their dad and all my other siblings. But the other step brother, I don’t know him, I’ve only met him once and that was at my nans funeral .


Post # 10
936 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I have a stepbrother and a stepsister, but I am extremely close to them. Then again they were 2 and 4 when my parents started dating (I was 18), so they were around a lot. They are my family, so it wasn’t a surprise when my stepsister was a jr. bridesmaid in my wedding and my stepbrother was an usher. 

DH on the other hand has a stepsister who has met all of two times and honestly doesn’t even feel comfortable with calling her such. He just says it’s his Dad’s wife’s daughter (equally awkward in my book, but I understand, given the lack of their relationship, and the fact that he’s not super close to his stepmom (especially because she had an affair with his father before his parents were divorced)).

At the end of the day, she never made an effort to get close to you and your father and stepmom only helped that by telling you not to bother her. She honestly should not be too surprised, and if she is, then that is her problem to deal with. It’s not personal, its just that you want to be surrounded by your nearest and dearest, and speaking to her in passing a few times a year does not make her that. Don’t feel bad in the slightest.

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