(Closed) Stick to my guns or play nicely???

posted 9 years ago in African-American
Post # 17
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MsChievous08: urgh i wuold be pissed…. but alot of the PP already touched on the subject….its kinda late…so i would at least try and number the amount of kids that are coming. im telling you…i have seen some bebe’s ruin a day!

We are only letting the children in our wedding party and family from Out of Town that HAVE NO CHOICE but to bring the kids, let their children attend.

i think its kinda of rude to expect me to pay for you, your date..and your kids lol…im just saying

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MsChievous08: Fist things first… Did you mention no children in the invites?

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MsChievous08: I would say if you didnt put in in your invites that No children are allowed then you may have to let it go and have them there. In order now not to offend anyone as they didnt know from the beggining.

Post # 21
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If its the local guests they have plenty of time to find a sitter. We are having an adults only wedding, and honestly it would bother me if people brought children anyway.

My cousin got married last weekend and my dad told me (i couldnt be there) that there was a toddler talking loudly during the ceremony and his mom would not tell him to shut him up or take him out. Then at the reception the kids were running everywhere, ran under the head table and knocked down a candle, and my dad had to put out the flame. After all this several people told them I was a genius for having an adults only ceremony.

Basically, if you feel strongly about it, ban the children. They  may not remeber your wedding but you will and you should have it the way you want.

Post # 22
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We are having and  Adults only wedding/cocktail reception, we both agreed to it the only children are the ones in the wedding party and my Fiance little cousin that is coming from out of town. It’s gotta be hard knowing he already invited the children. Me personally I would have a long sit down with him about it then do some research about a local baby sitter and maybe have them in a separate room at the venue doing kid activities order a few pizza etc and let the little ones have their own reception. Granted it may cost you a little but it will be less than having them running around barely eating the food that you force to pay extra for etc.  Heck Little Ceasers and Domino’s have $5.00 pizza. Get some coloring books and a video gaming system and the little buggers will be good til the parents come and get them to go home! And when it comes to telling the parents just say sorry their was a misunderstanding regarding the children attending. Although this is an adult only affair we have made arrangements for a child care provider ans pizza in …….. to enterain the children.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee

I’d go back and tell them. I’m pregnant now and I have no problem with no kids at a wedding. ALL kids are not well behaved and ALL parents don’t discipline.LOL

They’ll be okay. Not like they just can’t get a sitter or just not come.

Post # 24
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sometimes you just have to laugh @ your Fiance:).  I wanted No Kids @ our wedding because I come from 7 and have 11 nephews/niece.  Doesn’t quite work w/ a small  budget intimate wedding.  Ultimately we only had his nephew and niece who are both teenagers.   I personally would say “Hell 2 The NO”.  If that is just 2 much, I would put an age limit. 

For my brothers wedding, we had a long table for 20 kids in the back.  The older kids ensured the younger kids stayed in line.  Adults patrolled the area as well.  Also we fed kids McDonalds.  Nothing like going through drive-through requesting 40 Happy Meals.LOL 

If its possible and your @ a hotel, see if you can setup a kids room or play area.  This way you can bring in separate food and have children entertainment.  One of my Mom’s did that @ her son’s wedding.  And they got married @ a Scottsdale resort. 

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sorry, If invites haven’t been sent out I would make it clear on the invites, website, and conversation that little ones are not invited. Go with your vision, don’t give in!

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Dont allow rugrats to ruin your day. A wedding is an adult event children will spoil the fun. Plus it is inappropriate to have alcohol and children in the same event.

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