Post # 1
I have a friend who’s very artistic and also a very kind person. She offered to make some costume jewelry for me for my wedding, but I declined because I’m planning to wear pearls. I explained the situation and that the idea was really thoughtful of her. Now, she’s been suggesting other unusual gifts that she could give us for the wedding that we really don’t want. I don’t want to appear ungrateful, because it would be lovely for her to attend, whether there’s a gift or not. But, I don’t want her to spend money on hula hoop lessons for 2, or any of the zany other things she may come up with. I know that there’s no good way to say “please just stick to the registry”, but what am I supposed to say when she asks “would you and Mr. Kitty love to take private hula hoop lessons?”
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Is there anything artistic that she could make for you? Something unique for the house? A picture frame, a decorative bowl or mirror? Cool, funky coasters, decorative pillows?
Post # 4
You say “no, we aren’t the hola hoop lesson type.”
Post # 5
I don’t know how to nicely say “please stick to the registry,” but if she asks before doing something I think it’s ok to say (as you did with the jewelry) that hula hoop lessons aren’t really your style. If she buys something of that type without asking, all you can do is thank her – she sounds like a sweet person who means well.
Post # 6
Personally, I think that if she asks you what you would like it’s perfectly fine to say “we’re really hoping to receive some of the items that we have on our registry”. If she follows up with “no…what do you really want?” (which has got to be one of the most annoying things about the entire wedding process), I would tell her the truth.
If she specifically asks about hula hoop lessons, I would just say that you guys aren’t into that. If she’s asking, it’s because she’s unsure how to proceed. I’d be honest, but kind.