(Closed) Sticker shock at wedding total

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

weddings are expensive!! but there are lots of ways to cut down costs if you really want to

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Natalieh86:  How many guests? and what size is your bridal party?

Our budget is way smaller than yours, but I had the same thing happen! I was thinking like, oh, $5500. and then when I put everything into a spreadsheet it came to like $9000. now that’s for everything except the honeymoon, which will be delayed but still! i was shocked. how can 25 people equal 9000?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitely don’t go into it thinking you overestimated things, expecting to have X amount left over. That’s a sure way to rack up unreasonable expectations about how much you will owe, have to save for, or will have left over. We also ‘overestimated’ a lot of things — but saved for the entire amount — and for the most part our ‘overestimates’ went to cover underestimates in other areas.

Really you need to decide how much you are willing to spend, and budget each portion of your wedding ahead of time.

$15,000 is a HUGE difference. If it were personally, that kind of discrepancy would be unacceptable. For others it might be justifiable, but I can’t relate to that.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I feel you!

I was adding up what I thought was going to be a quick, cute destination wedding and my budget with travel and dress was 5000, well, I’m at 9000

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is why I probably won’t tally up everything we’ve spent.  We are paying for everything with cash as we go.  Every purchase we’ve made so far has been worth it. I don’t regret anything, but I don’t want to see that grand total number, because that’s when you start thinking about all the things you could have done with that money instead.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It definitely adds up! We went in thinking we would do it for $12,000 no problem, but we’re already edging close to $16,000!  I agree there are tons of ways to cut cuts, it just depends on what your priorities are. We ended up adding to our budget because our parents were able to contribute a little more than we expected.

We’re also paying for things with cash as we go so it’s not the bank account windfall I was expecting with my initial sticker shock. I imagined $16000 disappearing en masse from my checking account, but in reality we’ll probably pay off as much as we can beforehand and space out our payments to give our bank accounts some time to recover.

Decide what your priorities are and see if there’s anywhere you could scale back a bit. The details matter a lot when you’re planning, but the guests won’t know if you chose a cheaper chair option or a lower level wine package. That type of smaller savings has helped us out a lot.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I thought 15k no problem, I’m over 20k right now and growing.

It seems like there’s NO way to cut costs. I just have to take the lowest estimates I get and roll with it….

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel the pain to we wanted A  Romantic Dream Wedding buts its getting to be to much….

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My budget was 5k and will be around 6k when you include all the small stuff.  Because we are trying to have a baby, I’m going to stick to 6k.  I just don’t want to spend my entire bonus on one day.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We thought 15k but after getting prices and writing an actual budget we are looking at 24k. Now that we know the max we are willing to pay, hopefully we can stay at ot below budget.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Before I was engaged, I had 20k in mind. Then planning started…now our buget is 60k…but I know we’re going to have the wedding we want and are not going into debt for it — so all happy here.

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