- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hi, I’m in a little bit of a tough situation. My parents were divorced when I was 7 years old. I recently got engaged and am in the beginning stages of planning a wedding. My mom has offered to give me the wedding of my dreams, I’m a practical girl and it will not be an over the top kind of thing. My dad and I had a bit of a rocky relationship due to his treatment of my mother during and after the divorce. We have established more of a relationship in recent years. A lot of people are asking me what my father is contributing to the wedding. My fiance called my father and asked for permission to ask me to marry him. My dad called me the next day and was thrilled with the news and so impressed that my fiance called him. He asked me to keep him updated so he would be able to attend. He never offered to contribute. I would love to see my dad take an active role in my wedding, I’m not sure how to ask if he wants to. It’s not even about money, it’s more the gesture. Should I let it go or approach the subject and see what he says? My close family keeps telling me to swallow my pride and independance and ask him.