(Closed) Sticky Situation With My Fiance’s Sister

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I dont think you have any obligation to ask her– you should have people who are there for you as your bridesmaid. If she is expecting that she will be a bridesmaid??

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am not having any of my FH’s sisters in our wedding, nor am I having my sister.  I don’t thind there is any reason you would have to ask her.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Nope..you do not have to ask her.  If Fiance wants her in the wedding then have her stand up on his side.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree.  I don’t think anybody should have to include anybody in their wedding party that they don’t feel is 100% there for them and supportive.  If you Fiance is set on including her, she can be a female groomsman.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think you have to include her either.  How big would your Bridal Party be?  If you’re having a small bridal party, that’s reason enough not to have her in it, just say you were trying to keep it small, if it was brought up.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

my advice it to keep in mind she will be your family forever. try to resolve the argument before the wedding.

I am the only girl with 3 brothers and I was not asked to be a bmaid in my brothers wedding and it hurt, A LOT. Mostly because I was the only one not involved in the wedding and my SIL didn’t make an effort to get to know me within the family. Now, 7 years later we are much closer but there is still some distance in terms with that.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know exactly how you feel… but don’t feel obligated to put her in the bridal party. You are having a destination wedding anyways, I assume you won’t be having a very large Bridal Party. Half the time I think people are embarassed when it comes to not being asked to be in a wedding. The truth comes out… you have EVERY right to be happy and stress free 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have only one brother and I asked my Fiance to include him because I did not want him to feel like he had been “left out” that day. I vote the more the merrier, if he wants her you could always pick a fav guy friend/relative that you ask to stand up on the boys side too to make things even!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It’s difficult when this happens but stay true to yourself.  It’s better to be honest aand not have her if this is what you’d prefer, than to feel disappointed yourself. She may actually be relieved herself not to be asked!  All the best 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I would have her, not for you, but for your Fiance. She is, afterall, his sister and those pictures last forever. My brothers are ,y FH’s GM and he barely knows them, but they are there for me. That’s just my opinion though! Family is really really important to me and I would rather have them included than hurt feelings for a long time.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, yo don’t have to ask her, but it might be a nice way to mend fences. She is now going to be family, and you are going to want to take care of any issues you had in the past before the wedding.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Good solution. That is what I am doing as well. Best friend and sister!

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