(Closed) Still don't love the ring :(

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Casa de España

@bzbride2277:  could you post a picture of your ring?

Post # 4
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@bzbride2277:  wow. I would be more upset about the fact that he didn’t know you enough to know what you want. Since it seems like he got you the opposite of what you wanted. I don’t know what to say since it seems like you can’t talk to him about it. Is this how things go with him all the time? Or is it just about the ring that he’s super sensitive with. 

Post # 5
2377 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

im the same but cant say anytihng cos i chose my ring (living in a small town at the time with no real options)

but if i was you id tell him. not that you dont like your ring but maybe “you like another syle a bit better, than you envisioned having for so long” or your ring now just doesnt feel comfortable, gets caught on stuff etc….

id tell him. good luck

Post # 6
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Just a heads up– you are going to get a ton of negative responses about how your Fiance tried so hard to get/pick out the ring and you should just get over it and sacrafice something you want to make him happy. Im with you sister, I’d be upset too! But thats where this will go.  

Post # 7
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you dont like the ring, and your financial situation allows you to upgrade, go for it!

No sense in wearing a ring you don’t like.

Post # 8
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

Have you asked him why he chose that ring? why that size etc etc? Is there a story behind it? Id approach it that way. Hopefully 2 things could happen, you fall in love  with the story and then the ring or your Fiance realises he maybe didnt put too much thought into what you like and you guys upgrade.

Post # 10
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

If your friends didn’t have nicer rings, would you feel the same way?  Is the stone too small for you or do you just not like solitaires?  (I’m not a fan of solitaires myself, so I get it.. we all have our own tastes)  

If it’s just too small for you, and he doesn’t want you to upgrade, why not add eternity bands on top and bottom?  That could really add some sparkle and be quite beautiful.

Post # 11
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bzbri Do you not like the ring because  you’re embarrassed that others think its too small or do you not like it because it just really honestly isn’t your style? I have a half carat engagement ring and I have a beautiful wedding band that doesn’t over shadow the stone and can be worn alone. I understand your frustration with not having the ring you want, but maybe try to look at it as less than something to show off and more as something to be proud of because the man you love picked it out and put it on your finger. If you keep living life comparing yourself to others, nothing will ever make you happy. I hope you can try to see your ring in a new light and if you can’t, you need to have a real and honest conversation with your Fiance. I hope it all works out for you!

Post # 12
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It sounds like you have the perfect opportunity to choose a very detailed and intricate wedding band! And, being a plain solitaire, you will have ENDLESS options (no tricky curves to get around!). It might be better to leave the ring as is, if changing it is going to cause issues, but just get an AMAZING wedder! I’m pretty sure you can also get enhancers:



Post # 13
1336 posts
Bumble bee

I would tell him that the ring is just not your style and you need to pick out a new one. I’m sorry it hurts his feelings but he will move on. My SO is very concerned about getting me the ring I will love to wear forever. I give you props for trying to make it work for 6 months but it’s time to get a different one.


Post # 14
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bzbride2277:  Oh I feel bad for you:( You should really love that ring! If I was you, I’d tell him…I may get raked over the coals for this but I couldn’t wear something everyday I didn’t care for. I think he’s sensitive when you bring it up because he knows he could’ve come closer to the ring you really wanted. I think you should speak up, in a loving way of course. 

Post # 15
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@bzbride2277:  Well … I would give him some time. Maybe do something that makes it actually sound like it is his idea. It sounds like he does not like the idea of disappointing you and he knows that. Give him some time and he may come around eventually. I don’t really know what else to say because I do think he thought he tried hard, but at the same time, as a pp stated, he didn’t know you well enough to know what kind of jewellery you like.

I am personally really particular with my jewellery and my guy knows it so he has listened to everything that I have said because I am so picky. I would still wear it though …


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