(Closed) Still Friends with Bride?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall

My sister was married last year and we are no longer friends with one of her bridesmaids.

Post # 6
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I had a friend from HS who was married during our college years. We had started to drift apart after college started, so I thought it a bit odd that I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I went along with it, chalking it up to her effort of rekindling friendships.

Boy, was I wrong! She has cut ties with pretty much everyone, and has become a hermit with her loser husband (we all tried to talk her out of marrying him!!).

All that I have left of the friendship is the ugly bridesmaid dress!! I’d post a picture, but I’d rather spare you the lilac-ish horror.

Post # 8
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I second the request for bridesmaid dress horrors. That could be a fun thread of its own!

Post # 9
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

***Raises Hand*** I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for a good friend just this past summer, and had even asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding in May.  I started to feeling like we were growing apart around the time that she asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, but she had no other good friends, and no one in her family really cared that she was getting married (almost no one came except her very immediate family).  In short, I did it because I wanted to help her create joyful wedding day memories, and I knew she needed someone’s commitment and support to help make it happen.  As a result, I felt compelled to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding, because we were engaged at the same time, and it was a matter of planning that came up for both of us around the same time.  I really didn’t question whether I had a choice. 

We started to completely grow apart within about two months of the wedding and have almost nothing in common anymore.  It felt very harsh to cut her from the guest list, and start planning for her no longer being in the wedding, but it was the right thing to do. 

Post # 10
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

About 4 years ago I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. I was friends with the bride and the groom (actually I’ve known the groom longer than I knew the bride). A month before the wedding she called off the whole things. About 6 months later our friendship was falling apart. I’ve always kept in touch with the ex-groom but the ex-bride and I stopped talking all together. About a month ago, she had the audacity to email (after not talking for 3.5 years) to ask if I still do photography and if I would be interested in shooting her wedding. LoL. I went from bridesmaid to wedding photographer. I’m thinking I might over charge her for the ugly bridemaid dress that I bought and altered but never wore.

Post # 12
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Ali – was the fight directly related to the wedding?  You don’t have to answer — just purely curious.  I wonder how much strain a stressful wedding sometimes puts on a relationship!

Post # 14
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

Ali, it was the same dumb crap (lies and such) that ended the friendship between me and my friend. Honestly, I think I’m better off with out her and it sounds like you are too.

Post # 15
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

It is so sad when that happens….  I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my best friend from high school’s wedding just a few months after we graduated college.  Things were becoming strained between us at that point because we were in such different stages of our lives.  So strained that my mom even suggested I back out of the wedding… I felt bad doing that though and we had a lot of very close mutual friends.  Fast forward 5 months after the wedding with very minimal contact and we saw each other at a Christmas party, things were as awkward as they ever had been and now 6 years later we have not spoken/seen each other since that day.  We never even had a fight, just drifted away.  I’ve always wondered if she regrets having me in the wedding, but it was such an odd time period that I’m not sure what either of us could have even done in hindsight.

Post # 16
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I was Maid/Matron of Honor for a college friend years ago.  We were relatively close at the time, but I was actually pretty surprised she asked me to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  She has since moved to another state and we haven’t talked for several years.  There aren’t any bad feelings or anything, we just lost touch.  I feel kind of weird that I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and we’re not even inviting them, but we’re also keeping numbers down and I didn’t want to invite them instead of friends I see all the time.

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