- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
I’ve posted about my frustrating dress shopping experience a few times already so if you’re like “this whiny lady sounds awfully familiar!” you are indeed correct. I just need some moral support, some serious good luck vibes, and help thinking up a shopping strategy this time.
I’ve been to 8 stores in 5 states over the last 6 weeks. I think I’ve tried on at least 50 dresses.
I’m trying to find, in this order:
2) on a ballgown
3) with lots of sparkles
4) and tons of tulle
I would compromise from the bottom up (satin instead of tulle, have to add my own sparkle, maybe it’s A line instead of a ball gown…) But I will not compromise on the straps.
What happens is I go into the stores, they ask me to describe in great detail what I want. I know exactly what I want (and have multiple pictures of real current dresses to back up what I’m asking for) so I tell them, and then one of two things happens:
SCENARIO ONE: the consultant cops an attitude and goes “oh” all disgusted “we don’t have ANYTHING like THAT.” And then she just stands there with her arms folded and stares at me like she wants me to just get up and leave.
SCENARIO TWO: the consultant gives me a perky “oh you can just buy anything and spend a ton of money having a seamstress tear it apart and turn it into a new dress! Let me show you all our strapless mermaid dresses…”
I’ve got three more appointments tomorrow and I’m torn over how I should handle it… These are the options I have thought of:
1) Pretend I’m super excited at my first appointment and have no idea what I want, try on a few of their suggestions, but then try to steer it back to what I want. The thought process is that maybe when I’m honest about how much shopping I’ve done, maybe they are writing me off before they show me anything.
2) I could tell them exactly what kind of dress I want and what has been going wrong at my previous appointments and just straight up beg them to care enough to help me. That would be to try to get them on my side and sympathetic, so that maybe they try a little harder to dig something out of the back of the stock room.
3) I could go in and tell them what I want exactly like I have been, but having already decided that if someone starts giving me attitude again I’ll immediately stop the appointment and demand that the manager have a different consultant help me. Of course that won’t work if I already have the manager, which is what happened last time.
I’m so super unhappy about how this is going. I am a good shopper, I know what looks great on my body, and I love SYTTD. I never in a million years thought it was going to be such a frustrating mess. I thought it would be fun!!!!!!!!!!
So I’m open to other ideas. Or if you don’t have any ideas, I would be thrilled if you ladies would just cross your fingers for me to have some luck tomorrow!! I know they make my dress (see, e.g., Pronovias Dafnis, Romona Keveza Legends L268, Demetrios 545), I just have to find someone who’s willing to sell it to me!!!