Still no proposal

posted 3 weeks ago in Engagement
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee

The bees already gave you a lot of great advice, and I see your update that he has ordered the ring and a special box  for it to come in. That’s awesome and I hope it all goes according to plan, and you come back on here with pics of the ring for us all to drool over!

Post # 47
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Bumble bee

Glad you have been able to have a serious talk with your boyfriend and resolved your concerns.  Please come back and post pictures of your ring after the weekend!

Post # 48
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@hpeepo:  

OK, goodo. Very timely.  l still don’t like the prevaricating , but l l hope it is the last he does and the ring and box arrives on time. Do post when they do.  

Post # 49
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Busy bee

Any update OP, did he propose this weekend?

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

Please update! TBH that wait would be killing me too!

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

It seems as though (unfortunately) my post from 2 weeks ago was right: there was no engagement and OP made it up to save face after not taking our advice about her unwilling boyfriend well.

 

I hope this opens her eyes for good and that she finds someone who treasures and wants to marry her.

 

Post # 52
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Blushing bee

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@mixybee:  how do we know it was made up? Did I miss something?

Post # 53
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Busy bee

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@lyni12:  Nope, nothing to miss. OP hasn’t come back to update us yet. Last we heard her bf told her he was waiting on a custom made ring box to arrive. 

Post # 54
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Blushing bee

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@lyni12:  have you read through the thread? You’ll see what I mean. 

Post # 55
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Bee Keeper

I must have missed something. I thought OP was going to be engaged in a week? Did it happen?

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@mixybee:  

Also, why do women stay with men who won’t marry them for YEARS? In this case over a decade. I couldn’t do it. I’d end up hating the guy.

Post # 56
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Blushing bee

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@mixybee:  I just assumed she didn’t update the post. It either happened or it didn’t. 
@sunburn: I understand the waiting to an extent. My bf and I have been together 4 years and I know he has a ring and is waiting for “the right time” we had a conversation recently when I said why. If you want to marry me then do it. Why are we drawing this out and making it into a big deal. And he said he wants to plan it and make it special. Not that I care but I have to respect his wants too. He said it’ll happen by summer but I’m thinking he’s saying longer than it’ll actually be. And who cares if it’s 1 year later. Yes it’ll be annoying but it won’t change anything in our relationship except a ring and starting to officially wedding plan. 

Post # 57
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Busy bee

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@lyni12:  Well, but in your case, you (apparently) don’t care when it happens.  In OP’s case, the whole reason she wrote in was to express her anxiety over it not happening.

12 years, the ring in his possession for months (that “they” bought, not “he”), him knowing that she’s upset about waiting anymore, and still opting to wait for a special box before proposing, all add up to no proposal on the horizon.  Most of us tried to tell her that, but she was sure it was happening that next weekend.  If it did, she absolutely would have come back here to have her ‘I told you so’ moment (and many of us would’ve been happy to be wrong).

I’d be willing to bet it didn’t happen.  I’d also say she should see it as an opportunity because any guy who would watch me suffer and have the ability to make it stop but choose not to….is not someone I’d sign up for a lifetime commitment with.  We should all marry someone who has our back above all else.  

Post # 58
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Blushing bee

 

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@cart:  I do agree there. He needs to take her feelings/plans/etc into consideration. Especially if he gave her a timeline and has the ring and they’ve been planning/talking about this. 

I know my circumstance are different because he knows if he takes too long I’ll propose myself 😂. I do sometimes feel the bees are a bit harsh on the boyfriends/partners because we never know the whole story. 

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