Member- wifey2be
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
My Fiance proposed to me christmas last year with a simple gold band. At the time he couldnt afford to buy me a proper engagement ring. He knew that with what money he did have to spare, he did not want to buy a ring that I would hate or be dissapointed with.
Dont get me wrong, I love my little band because it is the one that the promise came with. I am also in no way beating up on him because I dont have one yet. My partner also works 60 to 70+ hours a week and lets me stay at home to raise our babies and let me finish my Ba of Education without having to add the exta stress of working. For this, I am eternally grateful.
Problem is, because of living off of one income and his accountant stuffing up his taxes from his old businness, we now have HUUGE tax debts to pay off on top of mortgages, bills, schooling, food and other general living expenses. This also means that we still cant afford to buy my proper ring yet. 🙁
We were hoping that after changing accontants (he is supposed to be a genious but has been very expensive) he would find enough offsets from the last business which hadnt been finalised because of our old accountant stuffing us around so much and setting up the new business, to clear our tax debts. we were wrong. We were also hoping that we would be getting a pretty decent quaterly bonus in march and we were going to buy one then… but hasnt come yet. Typically, we have the money owing to us, but no one is paying their bills. 🙁
He tries to hide from me the extent of how we are just surving, but I know money is tight and will be for the next 3 years or so untill I can re enter the workforce. Daycare is very expensive here so its not worth me going back to work at the moment because we have two children who need care as one is still a baby and one is still in Kindy (part time hours). The cost of daycare will be more than the money I would/could earn.
Yet still, I am finding it harder and harder to explain to people why I still dont have an engagement ring. When people go to look at my hand to see a rock of some sort and only see a simple gold band I really do cringe at how they are going to react or stress what they must be thinking. some reactions say it all.
Im not sure if he knows I feel this way, because I never bring it up. I dont want to put him under any more pressure than he all ready is. Because of our situation, if we can get a ring I have decided to go for a moissanite ring from moissy co. I dont want to spend money on an expensive diamond ring that we could put towards feeding and clothing our babies.
Sorry about the rant, but I had to get if off my chest. I really should stop looking at all of your lovely rings that you post on here. Initially it made me more excited as I thought I would be gettin mine soon, but now… I think it is making me more depressed because now I dont know when I will be able to have an engagement ring.
) Since you and your fiance already have 2 babies together, it’s doubtful anyone is really looking to see an engagement type ring on your finger. You’re already wearing what appears to be a wedding ring-if anything, that is what some people are looking for 
. So many married women don’t even wear their engagement rings once they have babies because of the prongs etc. so I would definitely not worry about someone noticing a lack of “engagement” ring.
