(Closed) Still sad about proposal

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
Hostess
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Your propose is special because it’s yours!

Every lady has a proposal story, some are a bit more detailes, and others are more tame.

My Fiance knelt down next to the bed first thing in the morning when I got up. I was kind of funny because I’m SUCH a grump in the morning before my shower. And he was going on and on and on and on about how much he loved me and could not wait a minute longer to spend the rest of forever together. At this point I was like.. wtf I’m tired! Go away! Then he pulled out the ring and I screamed! He was like, “I didn’t even ask yet!”. I was like.. OH GOSH. I had to collect myself while he asked, it was crazy.

Is my story a large elaborate plan he had worked out? No, but it doesn’t make it any less special. He proposed, I said said, there’s nothing else I would change!

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Sounds similar to mine, we got home after a night out we were just lying around in our pj’s and he asked me, to me that was perfect and intimate. But to me however he asked me would of been perfect because it meant that I get to marry the love of my life and that was the most important thing to me.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’ve been holding a grudge for a really long time, and it’s time to let it go. Not only can you not go back and re-do that day, you detract from his heartfelt love for you and his sincere proposal by carrying around that disappointment.

On TV, every bride gets a sweep-me-off-my-feet proposal with champagne, fireworks, and a carriage ride.  In reality, most men are not like that. Don’t compare your actual life to what the TV industry and wedding industry feed you.

Post # 20
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that it is time to move on as well.  I also think it might be time to do some self reflection.  Why is this such a sticking point?  What is at the root of feeling this way?  A lot of the time there is more than meets the eye.  I think this might be true especially in this situation where you are focused on your proposal and not the wedding or you’re marriage.

 

Post # 21
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611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hannabells:  you need to just get past that and realize that however he proposed, it is special and romantic to you and you husband. It doesn’t have to be this public, over-the-top thing. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t feel bad! My best friend got proposed to by the guy handing her the ring box with a post it not on it that said “Will you?” And then he just said “Well will you?” VEEERRRRY Romantic… not. Needless to say she was super unhappy about it. 

But now she laughs! Its not the biggest deal in the long run! 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My proposal was nothing extravegant. It was really simple, I went to meet him at his moms house (she wasnt there lol, he said he had to drop something off and then we would carpool to dinner) and he did it there. The power had gone out that day so I didn’t think much of the candles when I walked in lol, but then he proposed almost immediately. I much preferred being alone, not in front of a ton of people. Thats just my personality, im rather shy. I guess he was going to wait until our 5 year anniversary (which would have been over 2 weeks later) but once the ring came in he didnt want to wait haha.

I do understand how you feel though, when people ask for the porposal story, I really feel like theres not much to say. But, at the same time, it doesn’t really bother me.

Post # 24
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510 posts
Busy bee

@hannabells:  Well, to me, it sounds like a cute proposal:) Like what

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@suburbian:  says. You can always add more details to it to make it personal and special. Proposals don’t have to be a elaborate like a show.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I was kind of disapointed in how it all happened with me. Not so much at the moment, but later when I head him saying that “I didn’t think about it?”

Really? You couldn’t put anyt thought into it? Couldn’t clean the bedroom before you proposed with the dirty socks on the floor and kitty hair on the pillows?

But in the end he explained that he didn’t want the “specticle”. He just wanted to propose in our home, which means so much to him. He wanted me, No make up, no fuss, in just my bra and jeans to say yes to him.

That means the world.

Would I have liked a Flash Mob…Sure..

But I like him better. 

ETS: But I knew it was kinda skimpy so I made him put the ring on my finger himself!

Post # 26
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’d just get over it. My Fiance was going to take me out to dinner to do it, but ended up doing it when we were alone in our apartment together and I was trying to fix a game on the computer.  I mean yes I would’ve loved if he had some elaborate plan for it all. But he did ask, and in the end that is all that matters. Out of all the women in the world, he chose you which is special in it’s own right. Lots of women don’t get that far, period.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Get. Over. It! Quite being a Negative Nancy and only focuses on something you didn’t like. If the proposal of your dreams is the only crappy thing in your life, consider yourself lucky and move on! You’re now married to the guy of your dreams, so what the issue?! 

Post # 28
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136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I also had a quiet at home proposal and although it wasn’t exactly what I expected I was beyond excited to say yes and be engaged to the man of my dreams : ) Don’t dwell on it, just be happy you’re with the man you love.

Post # 29
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1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s over a year later…

Can’t shake the feeling that this is a troll.

Post # 30
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

The proposal is one tiny moment in a lifetime you will spend with your husband. In the longrun it really, really doesn’t matter if it was in front of your family, or under the stars with champagne and roses and a string quartet, or in your bedroom. The important part is that you agreed to spend your lives together and are happy. So get over it.

My FH proposed while we were sitting at our breakfast bar and I was wearing my pajamas. It was perfect.

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@phillybride61513: +1

Please get over it. It was over a year ago, and you’re married. Besides, I think your DH would be really hurt if he knew you thought his proposal sucked because it wasn’t romantic enough for you.

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