(Closed) STILL waiting

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What does your boyfriend say when you bring up the idea of marriage? Does he talk a timeframe with you?

Post # 5
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Everyone is different and some men find it easier to commit to marriage than others. I dont think you are crazy at all. I would def question the relationship and where it stands after 3 years, especially at 28. To me its a simple yes or no answer, he either does want to marry you or he doesnt…i think after three years he would know the answer to that.

I think its something you need to talk to your boyfriend about…i wouldnt give up on him just yet but i would keep throwing it out there for him and put the idea in his head, when yall are christmas shopping drag him into a jewlery store, try some on…

Do you know where he stands on marriage and kids? does he express he wants that in the near future? sometimes these guys just need a push.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I recently went through this.  Make sure you communicate all of your feelings to him because it could simply be a big misunderstanding.  We went ring shopping, lived together and talked about marriage all the time.  We knew it would happen, it was just a matter of when.  I made the mistake early on of saying to friends and family, “I’m in no hurry to get married” and I said it because I didn’t want him to feel pressured.  Well, after being together for 2 years and no ring, I started questionning what HE was thinking.  He immediately said, “I thought YOU wanted to wait, that you weren’t in a hurry.”  Big misunderstanding of what my hurry was versus what he considered a big hurry.

So we decided 100% we were getting married, shopped for rings, etc.  And then I waited and waited … he didn’t propose.  We even planned the date (September 17th of next year) but he still didn’t propose.  He finally proposed on October 30th and when I showed concern like you did, that I wouldn’t have enough time to plan all the details, he sincerely just did not know how much work wedding planning was.

We’ve already had at least 5 vendors booked for our date (he was completely unaware, had no idea that weddings were such a planning process).  Maybe just sit down and talk to your Boyfriend or Best Friend about these concerns, share everything with him so he sees the big picture.

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