(Closed) Stock-the-Bar party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My friend had one thrown for them.  It was really just an excuse to have a coed shower.  Her husband wanted nothing to do with a traditional wedding shower.  It was a BBQ at her sister’s house.  I thought it was a lot of fun, it really wasn’t shower like and didn’t particularly stick to the theme.  Some gifts were bar related, but most were from the registry.  A lot of people didn’t bring gifts. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just my personal opinion, but I am not a fan of the idea.  I feel like if you can’t afford to pay for guests’ booze at the wedding then you shouldn’t.  Have a dry wedding or a cash bar instead.  I would personally much rather cough up the cash at a wedding to pay for my own drinks over buying bottles.  Maybe silly, but my two cents.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had a stock-the-bar party/house warming when we moved in.  Nothing to do with the wedding though. Just an excuse to have everyone come over and see the place plus bring their fave booze!  Then we got to keep it all because we have a big bar and had no liquor.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

When I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend she asked for a stock the bar party. But the “bar” was not the wedding bar, it was their personal home bar. It was basically a good theme for a co-ed shower (I co-hosted with the bestman). We invited friends only. Most people brough a bottle of liquor or a pack of beer or bar supplies like a shaker or shot glasses. We did it at the couple’s house since both the best man and I lived out of town. We grilled burgers and kebobs. I thought it was a lot of fun. Guy and girls got to hang out together. I thought it was more fun than a traditional show, but it probably wouldn’t work as well with family of all ages. But great for friends.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t know- as a guest I would probably bring a traditional gift only because through my work I have seen the devestation that alcohol has caused and would feel uncomforatble buying alcohol or being part of a party to hoard alcohol.

It could also seriously backfire and you could end up with a bar full of creme de menth or worse!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@dickinson:  Uh, I don’t know if this is different in other circles but from my experience, “stock the bar” parties have nothing to do with the booze offered at the wedding. They’re to stock the couples bar in their home. Guests bring a bottle of wine or liquor as opposed to a houseware or whatever. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s when you have a party and guests are asked to bring booze to “stock the bar” of your wedding, although I guess it could be also the couple’s home bar. 

I think that it’s one of those things like dollar dances or stag and doe/jack and jill parties that varies by region–to some it’d be tacky, but to others it’s a familiar custom. Depends on where you live. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

we’ve been invited to a stock the bar housewarming

each guest had to bring a bottle of booze that started with their first initial (eg hubby was tequila as his name starts with T)

as we are both non drinkers i thought it was pretty lame we had to shell out over $100 on 2 bottles of booze that not only we didnt get to drink but they werent even opened on the night

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@BothCoasts:  Have you ever acually experienced a “stock the bar” used for wedding alcohol? The concept is totally foreign to me and I genuinely wonder if people are just confused about the whole thing and assume it has something to do with the wedding, which has never been the case in my experience. I guess it’s possible, just kind of odd.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

one of my moms friend is hosting one for me. I always understood it to be a co-ed shower with a bar theme for your personal bar- not the wedding bar. We will be providing the alcohol for the wedding. This is for people to bring bar related gifts (alcohol, barware, etc.)

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I love the idea of using that as a theme to stock your personal bar (I would certainly contribute!), but not the idea of using it to stock your wedding bar (which I believe is popular in certain areas- Canada, I want to say). I would have a blast shopping to stock someone’s personal bar.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it sounds like a fun idea! I would def go to a party like this. I usually bring a bottle of wine or liquor to a housewarming party anyway. I wouldn’t do it for anything wedding related, but maybe as a housewarming party as othes have suggested.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My sister and her husband had one of these and it was so much fun!  It was for thier personal bar; but mostly it was just an opportunity to have a co-ed shower for the younger adults.  

Funny story:  Even though it most commonly is used to stock your personal bar, be sure to clarify this on the invites.  My brother and his wife thought it was stock the bar for the wedding and he bought TONS of liquor.  It was pretty humerous  

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I had never really heard of this before, but now I’ve heard the term used in two different contexts. One being a stock-the-bar party as a shower – stocking your personal home bar, so people bring different alcohol, drinking glasses, corkscrew, whatever. People here seem to be saying more about a stock-the-bar party as being a party where people are buying alcohol for you to serve back to them at the wedding?

The first seems like a neat alternative to a typical shower. The latter, meh, I don’t really have an opinion. To each their own.

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