Post # 1
I am getting married within the next year or so and want to some opinions.
Our venue does not provide any alcohol or options to buy alcohol. I have attended a Stock the Bar party and it was poorly planned but my thoughts were to have my bridal shower for the women and have the stock the bar party for the men on the same day but at the same location but different areas so that the two don’t intertwine.
Opinions please thank you!
Post # 2
I don’t understand your question. Are you asking if you should have a Stock the Bar party to get alcohol to provide at your wedding reception since the venue for the reception does not have alcohol? If the reception venue had alcohol, you would be charged for it, so I would just buy the booze at a liqour store and serve it, rather than rely on your friends to give you the alcohol for them to drink at your wedding.
Post # 3
ktaylor13: I’m not a fan of having guests pay for any aspects of a wedding. I feel that if you are going to host an event, you should host the entire event.
Post # 4
What is a stock the bar party?
Post # 5
Opinions if this is a good idea? It tends to be a regional thing. If your friends and family are okay with the concept then have at it. It would be odd for our social group.
Are you asking how to make it more organized? You could give a check list but that is pretty odd. Just ask for cash donations (if you must) and buy the booze yourself
Post # 6
asobos: It is a party where you invite everyone over and they bring a bottle of liqour to “stock the bar” in your home. I’ve been to them as housewarming parties. So rather than a random housewarming gift, you bring a bottle of wine/vodka/whatever.
Post # 7
ktaylor13: What is a Stock the Bar party?! Is it a shower for booze??!?!??!
Post # 8
For my BFF’s wedding shower, we had a “stock the bar” wishing well where people brought bottles of wine and little accessories like coasters, stirrers, etc, but they were for her and her husband to keep and use. I never heard of people stocking the bar for your wedding reception. That seems kind of rude.
Post # 9
asobos: vintagekitten: It’s usually what SLOBee: said – it’s a party where people bring booze to “stock the bar” in someone’s new home.
In this case, OP wants to have a party for the men while the women are at her bridal shower (showering her with the traditional bridal shower gifts), and have the men bring booze that they will then use to serve at their wedding instead of buying the booze to serve their guests themselves.
Post # 10
If stock the bar parties are common where you’re from, I don’t really see an issue. The alcohol is given as a gift to the couple, who can then do whatever they want with it– if they want to use it at their reception, I kind of think that’s their prerogative. Sounds like a fun time to me!
Post # 11
ktaylor13: I think stock the bar parties are good for housewarmings but not so great for weddings because you can’t control the quality or consistency of the gifted booze, which is not great for hosting a group. There very well may be a lot of odds and ends–what do you do with the one bottle of cake flavored vodka, or the small tawny port? Will some guests be upset if they’re left with wine types they don’t care for because the “good” bottles went before they had a chance to get a glass? What if several people just show up empty handed to the party? Putting aside that you’re kind of passing along the cost of hosting with alcohol to your guests, it just doesn’t seem like a good way to provide drinks.
Post # 12
I have heard of them as housewarming parties (usually my friend group brings wine or liquor to housewarming parties anyway) but not to stock the bar for a wedding reception. I would find that offputting and would probably decline.
Post # 13
soontobemrsKB92615: I see. Um, I wouldn’t do that, no. I’d rather it say somewhere on the invitation that you’d like people to bring a bottle to the wedding in leui of gifts. But really, it’s your party you’re hosting. Booze isn’t that crazy expensive. I spent $900 but I could have easily spent a lot less booze, we went all out/top shelf. I would find it odd that a b&g are able to throw a wedding reception but not cover the bottles of liquor.
Post # 14
Sure. Why stop at booze though? Have some guests buy the flowers and centerpieces, some provide cake and desserts, your friends who hate buying physical gifts can offer their time to DJ at your wedding…. In other words, no, I don’t think this is a great idea.
Post # 15
If a “stock the bar ” shower is to stock the bar of the ccouple’s home-I’m fine with that.
If it is to provide alcohol for the wedding? not so much. You are the hosts. You provide beverages for your guests.
Keep in mind, that neither of you decide if you are going to have a shower. These are hosted for you by other people who offer to do so.