Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2020 - City, State
Good morning Bees!!!
I was recently engaged this past Saturday! It doesn’t seem real yet, especially since we haven’t set a date and I had to give up my ring for it to be resized. I was scared to wear it….one size too big.
Anyways, my friend found this super cute idea on Instagram and I wanted to share it with you. This may need to be posted under showers, but she called it an engagement party. I just worry it will be too far from our engagement to be considered an engagement party.
It is called Stock the Tree and all of your guests bring a Christmas ornament for the couple to have to decorate their first Christmas tree. I’m a teacher and my favorite gift to receive from students are ornaments so I thought this was a great idea! You may have heard of it before, but no one around here that I know of has ever had this type of party/shower.
We were thinking maybe end of November or beginning of December. Is that too late to call it an engagement party?
Post # 2
To me this is way too late to feel like an engagement party and just comes across as you wanting your tree decorations funded.
Post # 3
Engagement parties in my region are not typically gift-giving events–this would be a cute shower idea. It is also a bit after-the-fact for an engagement party.
Post # 5
I think you should celebrate you engagement when it’s a good time for you to celebrate. Yes traditionally it’s a bit sooner but just pick a time that works – especially if you are having a longer engagement there’s no need to rush. Your friends and family won’t care about the timing they will just want to celebrate your love. But if you are concerned… why not do the same idea (which I think is super cute!) and do a ‘Christmas in July’ theme and make it a hot christmas theme like we have in Australia 🙂 and I don’t think that people would think twice about buying an ornament – you don’t have to spend a lot for this and it’s really just a nice gesture.
Post # 6
honeybee2020 : A shower is the only type of party where it is acceptable to expect gifts. Literally, the only one. Even a birthday party — it may be customary for people to bring gifts, but you still should not expect them. An engagement party asking for gifts, or even implying that you think people should bring one, is really bad. Like, really really bad. Regardless of timing. If you want a Christmas tree themed shower, you can suggest that if/when someone offers to throw one and asks for ideas. This is not at all appropriate for an engagement party or any party that you’re throwing for yourself.
Post # 7
honeybee2020 : I know a lot of people will say you’r’e not supposed to expect gifts, but I think this sounds like a cute fun and inexpensive idea and most people will bring gifts anyway.
Go ahead and do this, but I’d recommend doing it soon-ish, November does seem far away if you’re engaged now. It’s not weird IMO, lots of areas have year-round Christmas stores and you can also find them on Amazon, at local craft stores- and to make things even more interesting you can specify that homemade ornaments are also lovely and well-loved family ornaments as well-
I know if it was a friend, co-worker or someone semi-close to me, I’d have fun picking out a new ornament from a Christmas store or Amazon, if it was a very close family member I’d be willing to part with one of my own cherished ornaments along with a little note describing it’s origins and sentimental value. And probably add a new ornament on top.
Post # 8
p.s. you can also get Disney Christmas ornaments online if you’re not lucky enough to actually be at a Disney store in person 🙂
Post # 9
I love it as a shower idea! And now my wheels are turning for my cousin who just got engaged…
Realistically though, I wouldn’t necessarily call it an engagement party as by then, the engagement will be generally known, unless you guys are planning otherwise. But, at the same time, if you are having a long engagement or that is what you want to do-if you were my friend/family, i would show up and think it a blast regarless what you call it. I love shopping for things like that and the tree would be such a beautiful collaboration of pieces of people in your life.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
As a shower idea, I think it’s cute, either in addition to or in place of a gift. In my region, though, engagement parties aren’t gift events. They are casual get-togethers to celebrate the couple and have some beers/bbq/whatevs. (I will often bring a nice bottle of wine and a congratulatory card, but it’s not required or asked of me.)
Start talking to your VIPs about who (if anyone) intends to plan you a shower, and pass the idea along to them. They can choose to go that route or not.
Post # 11
I think it’s an awesome idea! I don’t think it’s too late to celebrate. I was engaged in December last year and my parents are hosting me an engagement party in July.
We held off off because I live across the country and decided that it would be best to do when we could make it a pool party in my parents backyard
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2020 - City, State
Thank you all for your comments. I just thought it was a really cute idea. I love the Christmas in July idea, but I don’t know about being able to find ornaments in actual stores this time of year.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2020 - City, State
honeybee2020 : It is such a cute idea, but I fully agree with it being difficult to find ornaments this time of year. Someone who previously responded said that people can find them online, which is true, but I have to say that while I’d LOVE to select an ornament for a couple when available in stores, I’d be put off by spending money on shipping for a relatively inexpensive item.
Post # 14
Also people are right that engagement parties typically aren’t gift giving events but most people bring something small. I think an ornament is the perfect little gift!
Post # 15
honeybee2020 : I think it’s cute, and if I was being hosted at a party, like you’re providing me food/drinks I wouldn’t show up empty handed anyways. So, if you asked me to bring an ornament I’d have no problem doing that, plus a bottle of wine or champagne like we would normally bring.
I can’t imagine someone being offended by this idea, though apparently some are, it’s really not that big of a deal. If you had an engagement party and listed a registry on the invite with a bunch of expensive stuff, yeah I’d be a bit confused… but ornaments? Not a problem.
I think Christmas in July could definitely be fun, and you can order ornaments online easily.
Congrats on the engagement.