Post # 1
SO my stones are from my great great grandmother. My fiance had my engagement ring made by mixing up some stones that came from a few different rings- 2 carat round solitaire, then three .5 carat stones on each side. It was assembled by a jeweler our family has used for years. I had to send it back to be sized in December. When I got it back, it was still a little loose but I’ve just been dealing with it. Well, a few weeks ago I went to a jeweler closer to my home because I know they do sizing in house and I’d only be without my ring overnight (instead of a week, because the other guy is less conveniently located). They bring my ring in the back to test the stones and the saleswoman comes back out to tell me that the little stones are real but the center isn’t coming up on the machine as being a diamond!!!!!! I think she was afraid of how I would react… she looked like she was talking to a caged tiger. I didn’t get upset in the store, I kept it together, didn’t get angry at her obviously because she didn’t do it, but I was really a disaster. Her and the manager let me look at it under the microscope and showed me the abrasion on the edges, that a real diamond wouldn’t be doing that, etc. They were honestly great about it, and they handled this delicate situation very professionally and kindly. Once it’s all said and done I plan on going back to tell their manager how much I appreciated it.
My mom has the appraisals and GIA forms, and had it appraised by a different jeweler AFTER it had been initially made (but before it was sized the first time) and I am absolutely devastated. I feel like had I not brought the ring in to get sized, the stone that has been in my family for almost 100 years would still be where it belongs- in the family! So we contact the original jeweler, and we come to find out that he brings jewelry to the Diamond District- he doesn’t size himself- but he’s been using the same person for like 15 years. Fast forward a few weeks, they think they know which employee switched it out, but they are going to watch him and try to catch him in the act so that he will be punished- not just fire him and then let him go somewhere else and do this to someone else. So our family jeweler is embarrassed/mad/every combination of emotions, and understandably so, and he’s putting the claim in through his insurance so that we don’t have to deal with our own insurance. We have lots of family jewelry, so we have insurance policies on everything. I know that it’ll work out and I’ll get the same quality flawless 2 CT stone that I had before, but I feel like the history behind the stone is gone. My fiance is so upset, he knows how much it meant to me, and my trust in people is completely gone. I still have to have my wedding band made with other stones and I’m just freaking out about losing those too.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you move on from that kind of event? 🙁
Post # 3
That is a nightmare! I’m so sorry this happened to you…I don’t have any advice for you, just sympathy and virtual hugs
I guess the good news is, they’re trying to catch the bad guy so he can’t do this to another person ever, and taking you seriously.
Post # 4
I am so sorry about this mess….
What a nightmare.
Kudos to you for handling it so well.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
This happened to my Grandma too. She had a 1+ Ct stone back in the 50’s (which was HUGEEEEE back then, Way to go Grandpa!) and a shady travelling jeweller that she used to tighten the prongs, switched it out for CZ. By the time she figured it out the traveling jeweller was long gone…
Post # 6
I am so sorry that happened to you 🙁 and no it didnt happen to me
Post # 7
that is so sad and devastating.
I’m glad at least that you can get a replacement, even it it is not the exact same stone. You can add the stolen stone story to the history of the ring and pass that down with the new stone.
Post # 8
Oh my! I am SOOO sorry this happened to you!! I can’t imagine how upsetting this must be. However, I am glad to hear that not only did your family insure the ring but also that the jeweler under whose responsibility this ring was placed when the “swich” occurred is stepping up and is taking care of this huge loss himself so that your insurance will not be needed. It is good to know that the family jeweler is so reputable and is doing the right thing in this situation, even though he, obviously, cannot get your stone back. However, it IS possible that it may turn up through whatever police investigation may ensue.
Post # 9
Ugh that’s horrible I have a 2ct but it’s not flawless and I will notice in a millisecond if mine was switched, having such a large stone scares me but I do love my imperfections for that exact reason. At least it’s getting replaced and only go to Jewelers that can fix things while you wait so it never leaves your sight !!!! I know I have one jeweler with his bench right in the middle of all the jewelry counters
Im sorry this happend to you 🙁 I know exactly how I would feel of it happend to me and mine isn’t an heirloom so I can just imagine
Post # 10
@Brielle: + that’s why they have serial numbers ! I’m getting mine appraised, graded and laser engraved for that reason cuz mine is not yet certified -__-
Post # 11
This is just awful I hope your jewerler gets enough evidence to take it to the cops to have him charged. Hopefully he won’t let too long so perhaps there is a chance the thief didn’t sell your stone yet or if he did it has not gone far.
Post # 12
I am just thanking god that my Mom had the wherewithall to have them appraised by another jeweler after they were set in my ring, not only beforehand when they were in the other rings. I’m really glad he’s being so professional about it, it’s making this process much easier. I just don’t know what to do with the wedding band- now that they’ll be keeping an eye out I feel like it’ll be fine, but I’m just so nervous!!!
Post # 13
That is awful, I’m so sorry!
Post # 14
@MrsPeachMartini: What a horrible nightmare! I unfortunately have a friend who went through something like this.
Her late husband bought her an engagement ring from a jeweler in NY where they were from. He was stationed in the army in Alabama, so she ended up getting her wedding band from a different jeweler in Alabama. He was killed in action shortly after they had their first child, so her rings were really important to her.
She moved back to her home town in NY and saw on the news one night that the jewelry store they had gotten her engagement ring from was busted for putting fake diamonds in their rings. She went and got her engagement and wedding band appraised, and sure enough, her engagement ring had a fake center stone in it while her wedding band was real. She was crushed. It was so important to her to pass that engagement ring down to their daughter and some jerk at a jewelry store took that away from her.
I’m so sorry this happened to both you and my friend. I’m glad though that the jeweler is trying to make things right for you and catching the guy so that he doesn’t do it to more people.
Post # 15
OP- a stone that is over 100 years old will have a very visibly different cut than one that would be replaced by a modern day CZ or any other type of fake stone. Could anyone in your family tell the difference?
Post # 16
I’m so sorry this happened to you!
I have heard other stories like this, and I haven’t been able to turn in my ring for an appraisal or even a cleaning. I don’t trust others with it^^