(Closed) Stolen Thunder!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@westcoastbabe:  Sorry, but people aren’t going to put their lives on hold so you can enjoy your engagement.  She was (and seems like she still is) excited for you, so I’m not sure why you can’t extend the same sentiment to her?  You’ll both be going through planning together and can help each other with ideas, troubleshooting, etc.  If you can’t find it in yourself to be happy for her, then perhaps you don’t think of her too fondly as a friend?  Friendship does not equal competition.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry you are feeling this way, but can you try to feel like you can SHARE your excitement with someone else?  Look at it this way- you have a friend who is going to be excited to talk weddings, flowers, budgets, rsvps lists, etc when everyone else doesn’t want to hear about it. Try to see the positives of this situation.

It’s not about who was first, who dated longer, or whatever, it’s about both couples being ready to take the next step. You are probably going to get a lot of people who will say “you get one day, not a period, so don’t be a bridezilla.”  I just think you need to focus on your happiness and how much you want to marry your fiance, and not worry about who else did what.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sympathy.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You should be happy for them. We had friends get engaged the same day as us. And one of my very best friends got engaged about 3 days later. The world doesn’t stop spinning because you got engaged. The people around you have their own lives to tend to.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Sounds like you’re going to have to find someone else to hang out with then if it bothers you that much.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

There’s a thunderstorm going on in my neck of the woods. I’ll dedicate it to you so you can have some thunder back.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

how long should she have waited?

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is no such thing as engagement “thunder” even though people like to pretend that there is. There is also no such thing as wedding “thunder”. There will be 4 weddings in my family next year (me, my sister, my cousin and my other cousin -also sisters) all within 9 months of each other. Oh I totally get what you’re trying to say, but honestly, everyone’s lives move at their own pace and you just have to accept that your wedding shouldn’t mean that everyone else has to put their lives on hold.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@StuporDuck:  Love it.

Seriously, OP? You’re not happy because your friends are so deliriously happy that they got engaged as well? I would be ecststic to have someone to talk to about the crazniess of wedding planning. Remember -she’s your friend, not something to compete against.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry love, but you get ONE DAY.  Unless she is planning her wedding on the same day as you and you are battling over the guest list, I would suck it up and actually be happy for your friend.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Let me tell you about stealing someone’s thunder. The night Fiance and I went out to celebrate our engagement with his Father (the same week we got engaged), Future Father-In-Law dropped the bomb on us that he had gotten engaged for the 4th time a month prior to a woman he had been dating for less than a year and that neither of us ever met. While it was hurtful at the time, we’re pretty much over it and only wish them the best of luck. I think you’re being a bit selfish and I hope no one gets married during the same part of the year as you do. I can’t imagine what that’ll be like.

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