Post # 31
I don’t talk about my sex life with my parents. Making a baby is part of that sex life. So no, my close friends and family and loved ones don’t get to ask when my husband will ejaculate inside of my vagina without using a condom.
And it might be part of our “nature” to have kids, but it’s also part of our “nature” to run around naked, not use cars or technology, and live in small local family groups and hate strangers. But that doesn’t mean I want to be a naked, xenophobic, technophobe living in the woods.
Post # 32
I love this! I think it’s super rude to ask someone and you never know what they’re going through.
Personally, it makes me a little sad when people ask. Not because we’re actively trying but because up until about now, it would’ve been dumb to have a kid. My husband works a crazy amount of hours a week and we were in the middle of buying a house, setting up the house with furniture, etc. And we now are in the process of saving again from said house.
Getting pregnant isn’t just as easy as “I want a baby” it’s all the variables around it. And it’s unfair to keep pressuring those who aren’t ready quite yet, can’t get pregnant or don’t ever want kids.
Post # 33
While I do believe people aren’t intending to be rude or invasive when asking, it is a topic that should go to the wayside, unless brought up by the potential mother.
Looking back, I feel bad for asking my cousin, who was no doubt getting asked a ton during this time, about becoming pregnant. She had told me a year prior they were already trying, and the entire family was wondering when it would happen, but she was going through infertility that led to surgery before she could conceieve, so I can only imagine how painful it was to be constantly asked.
Thankfully, I learned quickly, so even when I was living with her and she was throwing up and plain miserable for weeks, I didn’t ask, and instead let her tell me when she was ready. Now she has the cutest little boy and her husband has turned into the one making jokes about me getting pregnant – which I suppose is my payback!
Despite not having graduated college yet, both my SO and I have been getting comments about us having kids, and it’s already getting old. Telling them we’re not even thinking of having a baby for another 5 years usually gets them to drop the subject, but maybe I’ll use some of the other responses on here too!