(Closed) Stop asking me to make an exception for your children!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@baliahi1029: I wish we had eloped.

This is the story of my life right now and we havent even sent out our save the dates. Yep. We’ve gotten phone calls already all becuase Future Mother-In-Law thought she should share our plans with everyone. I’m right there with you sister.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@baliahi1029: I think every bride at one point feels like they should have eloped. 

Make sure you’re clear and say no. I had 12 univited, un rsvp’d children show up at our wedding 🙂 awesome.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am also in the same boat. But my guests are being rude about it which bothers me even more.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

why do people do that… I’ve been having the same problem, it’s so frustrating.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@mwitter80: You let them stay?? I almost have half a nerve to make sure my venue refuses entry.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

AH, Im so sorry you have to deal with this! I WISH we could get away with an adult only wedding….. I would prefer it that way! Good luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Captain013: Yes. Honestly, I wasn’t going to let it ruin my day. I got mad for about 5 minutes and figured f-it! I wasn’t going to let the moment get spoiled because people refused to listen. However, DH’s father knew that this was going to happen and figured “it wouldn’t be a problem” Him I hate for it. They actually sat them at a table too that had been assigned to others. It was so rude. My venue served them all the filet. So the food was wasted as well. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@mwitter80: How awesome of dear dad, winner. Did the people who came with munchins KNOW they shouldn’t have brought them or were they just being rude? I’m just curious, if you have any lessons learned…lol

My venue has a seperate resturant, maybe I’ll ask that the family be seated there, they can pay for their own dinner, and then join us. I’m not even getting filet or anything near that fancy for our wedding, I can’t fathom paying for that for kids. 🙁

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@mwitter80: Jeez im so sorry that happened- how incredibly rude!

i think you are right when you say every bride feels like eloping at some point.

Ive been enjoying the wedding planning so much until we came across a lot of stressful issues regarding the guest list. Sigh.

I have enlisted friends and family to call certain parents who I fear would bring their kids no matter what the invite says, to let them know in a nice way that it is not Ok.

OP- Im sorry you have to deal with this drama and people not respecting your wishes! Stay firm and don’t back down! This annoyance will pass and then you’ll get back to happier wedding jobs again. 🙂

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Captain013: Oh they knew they shouldn’t have brought them. Our rsvp card mentioned adult only reception. They did not RSVP for these children. If they would have pushed it before hand then perhaps we would have tried to allow it (doubt it) but the kids meals were $25 vs. $120 and those children didn’t eat those steaks either which makes it even more sad. We also offered our guests a paid sitter in the attached hotel.  It couldn’t have been more clear. 

An hour before DH’s Dad called him and told him that this was happening. Darling Husband told him no. He actually told his father that I might refuse to marry him if I found out (of course that was crazy talk, but his family really put me through the ringer) and obviously it was ignored.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@baliahi1029: I would just like to note it’s my Father-In-Law and not my Dad. My Father actually asked if I would like him to escort the children out. My family believes late nights and places where people are drinking are for adults only. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@baliahi1029: Get a bouncer. A big burly no nonsense bouncer. I would pay good moeney to see my nearest and dearest get hauled away. Well atleast in your case they RSVPed them, and you can call them.

I don’t understand it, maybe they think we dont remember they have children or something…

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have to say say that “eloping” does not matter when it comes to this issue.

I am having a “private”(immed. family only) beach wedding/cermony, 16 people total. then having my “big” reception in my hometown approx month after(have to allow time for pic’s from wedding)with the rest of our friends and family. I stll am having same issue!for party @ home.

I want a adult cocktail party style reception at home.I have just started all my planning for wedding “part #2” and that is biggest issue. there are some family members who we are very close to that have children, but are older(12&15) and i would like to invite them w their parents b/c we vacation w this family often and are close. But, if i invite their kids and not others children(even though other family members kids are all under age of 8)i feel that i might make them say, “well, so and so’s kids were invited, why was our kids not allowed?” . is there a age cut-off for adults only reception????????

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