(Closed) Stop asking me!!!

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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690 posts
Busy bee

Holy, I am NOT going to cope well if people start asking me this once I’m married.  For some reason the whole “you have to have kids one day” notion is almost enough to make me think I might not want kids…

Post # 18
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep I had someone ask me at my wedding reception if I was pregnant (while I was holding a glass of wine by the way).

We also had a couple write in one of our wedding cards that they hope we have millions of babies (I’ve already told said couple that I have PCO syndrome and might not be able to conceive, so I thought that was a little tack less).

Suppose people must just get really exited and forget.

Post # 19
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I absolutely HATE the “how’s married life” question. I have begun answering with “pretty much the same as living together life…”

Post # 20
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s horrible, don ‘t people know how rude they are being?

I think you should start answering with “why do you ask?”

Post # 21
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14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve been getting this a lot lately….apparently by the time you have a 1 year anniversary, you should be knocked up. What’s going on with the world?!

Post # 22
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@ejs4y8  Just imagine what will be said at your 2 year anniversary! 🙂

I’m only getting this from my mother-in-law, but since it’s a cultural thing, it doesn’t bother me. Nobody else has said anything (so far!)..  I agree with all of you-people need to just be quiet!  I just got the “How’s married life” for the first time the other day. I just said, “It’s good”…we already lived together first, so nothing really changed much. Not sure what else I should have said? Geez. 🙂

 

 

Post # 23
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ugh, I hate the baby question!  My Mother-In-Law is the WORST.  Every e-mail, every phone conversation, every time I see her, she’s all “When are you having kids???”  And like, she already HAS a grandchild, so I don’t know what her rush is!  She keeps blathering on about how she wants to do this road trip to see National Parks with “all her grandchildren” and she’s worried that by the time my husband and I have kids and get old enough to do it, the other grandkid will be too old and not want to do it!  I’m like “Give me a break lady, I’m not pushing out babies just so you can do some road trip!”

Post # 24
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10849 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@domestic_cat: Omg! I had a girl write that in my shower card. Wtf?! It’s my bridal shower not a baby shower!!!! The worst part is that she’s getting married two weeks after me, so you know she’s getting the “When are you having babies” question every other day too, so why would she do that?!

Post # 25
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139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve been hearing this question for about a year now, and my wedding hasn’t even happened yet! Ahhh!

Post # 26
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

We’re not even married and we get this All The Time.  So annoying.  Yes, I know we’re not in our 20s, but we aren’t over the hill yet.  

Post # 27
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13564 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You poor thing! I know how you feel, kind of. We’re already getting asked about kids and we aren’t even married yet! You’re right– it is so personal. And inappopriate for people to badger you about it.

I say just come up with a polite but firm answer, and pull it out whenever you need.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Ohhhh, I’m afraid I will come unglued on someone when these questions start coming (on a more regular basis).  I am a very private person and people prying into something that is extremely personal gets my temper going like no other.  I had someone ask me several months ago if the hubs and I are going to start trying soon.  When I responded with no, we aren’t trying, she got even nosier to ask why…so I put her on the spot and said, “Well, as you know, we are in a long distance relationship at the moment.  And considering you know what it takes to make a baby, being apart makes getting pregnant EXTREMELY difficult.  So, I’m sure you understand now why we’re not trying.”  You could tell she felt extremely awkward after that, but that’s what she gets for being nosie.  I mean, seriously, she knows my husband lives elsewhere…why would she assume we’re trying???  Weirdohead.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is when you answer a question with a question “why do you ask?”. That usually gets the point across, relieves you from having to answer a stupid question, and gets people off your case.

Post # 30
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

All the time. My mom’s the worst and it just got worse last weeekend.

Post # 31
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are getting the same thing and we already have our two year old son. I had him in the middle of university – crazyness! I took this past year off and am going back this fall to complete teachers college and everyone wants to know when we are having a little girl – um…how about a) we dont want another child and b) i finish my university degree that i worked so hard for…..pushy people!

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