Post # 32
We have been getting this for years and we are getting married until Oct! I think it’s because his younger brother just turning 23 Aug has a 2nd grader and a preschooler, along with his older brother and his sister. We want to wait though until we are at a time in our life when WE are ready. So it would be really nice if people would let us just plan our life and not nag about us having kids.
Post # 33
I have a monthly conference call at work, and there’s one guy who EVERY meeting starts with asking me if I’m still married. He’s not flirting, he’s just “being funny”. You don’t know how badly I’m tempted EVERY TIME to start crying and say we broke up. But I don’t want to ruin what needs to be a productive work call.
Post # 34
I think this starts about 6 months after the wedding if you aren’t already obviously preggo. I posted to another thread that my Mother-In-Law asked about grandkids and I told her, “When your son stops hating infants we’ll have kids.” She hasn’t asked since.
As for the whole “how’s married life treating ya” question, I find a wink, a grin and the comment “exhausting” shuts peeps up quickly. Obviously for people like your priest a “just fine” is a more appropriate answer!
Post # 35
I think people ask this b/c most people view women as clawing guys eyes out to get married and have babies. They assume it’s what we want to do, so I guess they’re just asking how it’s going. I also know so many couples who got married and pregnant immediately so I think it’s normal.
For the longest time no one mentioned a word about reproducing to us, but all the sudden now our Mom’s have made it clear they are expecting us to have babies. It really only makes me sad b/c we’re pretty sure that is not in the future for us.
Post # 36
I get what you mean, but part of me WISHES that I was hearing that instead of “Don’t even THINK about having kids yet!!” which is all I’ve heard since I got engaged. I guess you always want what you don’t have…especially since I DO want to start trying soon.
Post # 37
@ejs4y8: That is almost verbatim what I asked FH the other night. We were talking about how so many people have gotten married and pregnant immediately, and FH said that probably lots of people think that because I’m not knocked up yet, that we are infertile and are praying for us. Nope, it’s that my IUD is working.
We’ve been married 9 months and last week alone, four people asked, “Are you pregnant yet?” So annoying and personal! And these were all work-related people, so giving a rude comment back is a BAD idea.
As for the “how’s married life?”, it doesn’t bother me. I look at it as generic small talk, basically, “How’s life?” but they care enough to personalize it a little/remember a big event in my life. I answer it the same as someone asking how I am- “fine.”
Post # 38
I feel like I’m going to let loose on the next person who asks me about having babies. I want to try the “what makes you ask?” response. Omg, the post about “I hope you have a million babies” written in a card…people need to think. My Fiance and I have no interest in having kids, so something like that would be the opposite of a well wish for us.