Post # 1
Ok so is anyone else getting this…
From the second we got off our honeymoon we have been getting asked “When are you going to have a baby?” & from EVERYONE. I don’t even answer anymore. I am so sick of this question. Like let us enjoy being newlyweds, we don’t need to start a family right away. I want kids but not now give us some time, we’re young.
It never stops. When your a teenager it’s “where’s your boyfriend/do you have a boyfriend?”.
Then when you got a boyfriend it’s “when are you getting married?”
& now that your married “when you going to have a baby?”
Post # 3
I know how you feel! We were being asked at the wedding when we will have babies!
Post # 4
I know how you feel too. I think alot of it comes from people not knowing what to talk about so it seems like a good ice-breaker? Id just let them know, “not for awhile, we want to enjoy being married” and hopefully they will get the hint!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
Oh my god. Amen! I’m 22 and we’re not even married yet and people are already asking us when we’re going to have kids. It annoys me to no end. Hellooo… can I walk down the aisle first??? I don’t want to have kids for a few years- again, I’m 22- stop asking! *ripping my hair out* 😉
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
Haha, Rainbow, we’ve gotta have a meetup…
Post # 7
I totally understand! Just like Rainbow, I’m not even married yet, but people were asking us from the time we got engaged! I always say, “we’re focusing on the wedding now, and then we want to enjoy being married for several years before we think about kids”. That usually gets the point accross!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
@Star- I agree! Aren’t we the 2 youngest brides in the history of the ‘bee? I have a feeling we’d have a loooot to talk about! I’ve always wanted an excuse to come to NY… 😀
@DecemberBride- I find punching people in the face usually gets the point across, lol, i kid i kid 😉
Post # 9
When we announced our engagement (even the day after) everyone would ask these two questions (ALWAYS): When is the date?? (which, after only being engaged for 24 hours I DON”T KNOW!!) and When are you having kids?? (I’m not even married yet – can’t we do that first!?) We now know our date so that one can be answered, but as for the kids: I’m only 23 and still in school. I have another two years left before I can even start work, and honestly, whats the point of getting a degree if the first thing you are going to do with it is let it collect dust when you have a kid. Soooo kids are like 5+ years away for us. People have generally stopped asking as much now since that story started circulating…
Post # 10
Yeah, people keep asking us that too and we are not married yet!
Post # 11
I think that’s just how it is. The thing I try to do is purposely STOP THE CYCLE! But, it’s a natural conversation point…. so try to not take the well meaning conversation filler too personally. Just come up with a auto-response, so you can move past the question!
Post # 12
Yes, all the time! I get to tell the obnoxious ones something they don’t expect though — I’m 24, fiance’s 31, and he already has 2 boys and a stepdaughter. I just say “well, since we already have 3, I think we are planning on waiting several years to have another.” The looks on their faces are pretty gratifying.
Post # 13
Tell them you haven’t even written your thank you cards yet, and maybe that will cool their jets.
Post # 14
And it will never end – so come up with a good answer. I have a good friend who was asked when they were going to have thier next kid … while she was still in the hospital with a 1 day old. No kidding.
Post # 15
People would ask us and we would tell them that we had just had two miscarriages (which was true). They would get very quiet after that!
Post # 16
Wow…I don’t know why people have to ask questions about your fertililty plans! Its so rude and yet, it happens all of the time. I am not looking forward to it. I can’t decide wether I want to go with a polite answer or something more snarky.