- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Just wanted to vent…I started writing another post with more detail on the situation but it’s hard to put into words without you guys getting confused!
Let me start by saying a few months ago, the FIL’s were straped for money, Future Father-In-Law is a contractor and was slow with work…they were having trouble with mortgage payements and so on..they cut back on so many things, and were scared to lose their house last year…now that he’s back to working a lot…it’s gotten better…but read on for more detail!!
Basically my Future Sister-In-Law is getting married before us, this Sept 9th..her planning process is basically done, and she’s just finalizing details now.
Our wedding process started last May when we got engaged but we only did the Reception,Church,DJ,Photographer.
Now that it’s Summer, and we’re kind of both still planning at the same time..I feel more stressed than ever.
Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law (who i LOVEEEE) expect or assume I will have to pay just as much as they have forked out for her style and ideas. um NO!
Example: FSIL $115 centerpieces.. 18 tables and 20 bridal party members later, and their bill is $3,600.
I went to the floral appt yesterday with them (i’ve been avoiding going to anything that they have invited me to regarding limo, flowers, invitations because of this reason) and as they were picking everything out, they had no regard for money! It’s great if you have it but to expect it upon someone else is rediculous!
After the floral appt and a bridesmaid dress try on for myself and for her first fitting, we came home and I went on the computer and was looking at flowers and centerpieces. FMIL came over to me and I said I planned on spending about $55 on flowers…
Future Mother-In-Law then says “Ummmm NO” I said what? What do you mean Ummmm NO? she says they TRIED to spend around $65 and it doesn’t work.
Well newsflash, My centerpieces are not tall and grand like your daughters (I didn;t say that to her) I DID however tell her that I plan on doing submerged flowers, and more of a garden theme so I won’t really need as many flowers.
She kind of acknowledged and left it alone, but I think she still thinks we’ll pay a ton of money.
Her and her daughter spent $550 on their invitations, and they over bought invitations when they have about 180 guests, I think they bought about 120…
I said holy shit that’s a lot of money on invitations…they weren’t even crazy they were plain white and gold!
Future Sister-In-Law said I should use her invitation lady and they have so many cool styles, it’s a woman who gives you good advice and tells you when to send them.
I said ummm no, I think i’ll order mine online from WPD’s or somewhere, I’ve found what I needed for $200 or so.
She said I should never do that because I should go to a woman in person to make them…I said well you know you spend more than you should because you’re involving someone who needs to pay themselves in helping you
Does anyone else experience these things? Am I ok in being upset feeling like they have to compare mine with theirs? Mind you, our budget isn’t a BUDGET …it’s about $25k-$30k…