Post # 1
So I read an article on CNN today, the link of which is below:
According to studies, 84% of men believe they have given their woman an orgasm, while only 64% of women reported to actually have them. What do you ladies think about this? I haven’t faked it, but I have thought about it. Although the article stresses the need to protect the the male ego as a reason for this, the times when I wanted to fake it had nothing to do with his ego. Sometimes I simply feel bad that my body cannot respond to all the wonderful things that are happening! One reason why I don’t go through with it is because I simply cannot seem to be able to lie to my SO (he is the only one I was ever intimate with). Another one is the point that the article touches on – I don’t want him to misunderstand how my body reacts to certain things. But many of my friends openly admit to faking it and I even know a woman who has been sexually active for over 13 years and has only had one orgasm! What is your experience?
Post # 3
I’ve never faked it and lucky for me, I don’t have to. Darling Husband seems to understand that it isn’t going to happen 100% of the time (and he can tell I’m still enjoying it even if I don’t actually orgasm). Lucky for me – more times than not I do orgasm though! 🙂
Post # 4
i’ve faked it a hand full of times… usually i don’t have to fake it at all, Darling Husband is def aware that it’s a different process for women and sometime it’s just not going to happen for me… luckily it’s a rarity for me not to O 😛
HOWEVER, the 2 months preceding up to the wedding were so crazy that i couldn’t get off… I THOUGHT I HAD LOST MY O FOREVER!!!! it came back on our wedding night! 🙂
Post # 5
From the article (to be fair, the article is not advocating this, just stating why so many women fake): “[women claim] that faking is a necessary byproduct of the male ego and protecting a guy’s self-esteem.”
I’m not a faker. I’m sorry, but the male ego just doesn’t mean that much to me.
Post # 6
I’ve never faked it…I’m not going to make my man think he’s doing it right when he’s not because that would result in me never getting there. Plus, he would totally know! Sometimes I think he’s more in tune with my body than I am…very stange lol, but a good thing!
Post # 7
I always say “Why would I fake it? That’s only going to hurt me!” Seriously why encourage someone to keep doing something that doesn’t work by pretending like they’re doing a good job, rather than making them figure out what works? 🙂
Post # 8
@JennyW1: yep, I had the same thoughts.
Post # 9
Nope, never. I was one of those women that didnt start having them until my 20s and in the beginning of our relationship it used to really hurt DHs feelings. It made him feel inadequate. After I explained that some women are just wired that way, he understood.
I have them now. 🙂
Post # 10
I have faked it with everyone but Fiance. Hence why I am marrying him LOL
Post # 11
I faked it almost every time with an ex boyfriend (he was my first, I was inexperienced and I thought it was the right thing to do). It was a mistake because then he never actually made an attempt to please me (since he thought I was pleased), and when he found out I was faking he was very upset. It’s definitely better to be honest.
Post # 12
@DeathByDesign: Sorry if this is a weird question, but how did he find out?
Anyway, I have faked it in the past, but never with my FH.
Post # 13
I would never fake it. He would know if I did. He shouldn’t think I am enjoying it if I am not :/
Post # 14
@JenniMichele: I eventually told him because I felt guilty and I was also unsatisfied.
Post # 15
I haven’t faked it I just can’t. If it’s not working then I tell my SO that. Although thankfully I’ve never had that problem. I’m sorry if your ego takes a hit just get over it. My friend who had been with her ex for six years faked it all the time. In fact she never had an orgasm the whole time they were together. I mean that’s crazy I would of said something a long time ago.
Post # 16
I’ve never faked it, but lucky for me I don’t have to. I’m naturally multiorgasmic. I have about 3-5 orgasms when I have sex, without clitoral stimulation. I wouldn’t fake it anyway, because I feel it’s not honest. If you’re not having one, talk to your FH or Boyfriend or Best Friend about it. Communitcation is very important in relationships, and sex.