(Closed) STOP fat shaming brides.

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 152
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Worker bee

@dancebride13:  +1000

 

I forgot to add this earlier– I was at a really important sorority function and an older alum who’s about 45 came up to me and said I was stunning, but spanx and the elliptical were my friends. Bitch, I do more HIITs on the elliptical than I know what to do with.

Post # 153
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@bretonvirgniia:  we’re body buddies! I am 5’7.5″ and right now I’m hanging out at around 160. I actually looked in the mirror yesterday and today in passing and though “wierd. I know I’m supposed to be fat, but I kind of look rockin right now…??

I don’t ever think of myself that way, so it was pretty wierd. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sure you’re beautiful. You’re a normal woman with a normal body. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 154
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

@sealevels:  I believe they’re UK sizes. In the US, she would of went from a 12 to a 6.

 

Post # 155
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2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

At the beginning of the wedding planning I decided to not try to lose a crazy amount of weight. No one understood. My mother tried to insist that I buy a sample wedding dress size 16. My gown ended up being a size 22. There’s no way I would have lost that much weight. I think I looked beautiful and my husband tells me every day how gorgeous and sexy I am. That’s all I need to hear.

I’m really, really sick of this thin-priveleg/fat-shaming stuff in our society. What I put in my mouth and how my body looks are no one else’s business.

Post # 156
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Nona99:  Oh my goodness. Be my life guru. I can only pay in gratitude, though.

@CookieCharmer:  Dude, you speak my mind. When I opened this thread, I was thinking… man, I’m a size 2/4, and I still feel like I have to eat carefully and sh–tuff, because I’m going wedding dress shopping next month. Sigh.

@tallierand:  Maybe the consultants were asking, just to know for sizing issues that come with losing weight and wedding gowns? I’m so hoping that.

@stefanielovesjamie:  Yes! Rock that bikini!!!

@colorofmyheart:  Maybe it was “just silly” to shop in their establishment. Rude.

@Treejewel19:  Your comment made me think how, I have always felt like my sister was the prettier out of the two of us… really she’s gorgeous, but that our family tends to say I am, and I think it is just because I am a size 2, and she is a size 12. Don’t get me wrong, I think I’m pretty cute most days, too, but I think people often equate the size norms of the time with beauty… but I guess beauty and whatnot is a matter of personal preference, really.

@ThinkingOutLoud:  You are so, so beautiful! Inside and out. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 157
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Agreed! I personally want to slim down. But, I have never suggested that someone else lose weight. And I can definitely appreciate the beauty of someone who isn’t at my personal goal weight. 

Post # 158
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@s2bmrscook:  

Agree.  My girlfriend is a size 00 and I’m a 6.  My cholesterol is lower than her’s, in fact her’s is so bad she needs to take medication.

Post # 159
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We look the way we look….and our FI’s or Darling Husband still want or wanted to marry us.Wink

I fit my dress comfortably. I loved the way I looked in it when I tried it on in the store, and it was only after I saw pictures that I took of me in it (around that time of the month) and looked at the way the model looked in it that I started freaking out about weight.

When I told my Darling Husband that I needed to stop eating bad food until the reception, he said “but shouldn’t you just be healthy for the rest of your life?” Not to curtail my weight, but to emphasize that we make too big a deal of looking a certain way for ONE DAY.  it will be a special day but I’m looking forward to 50 years from now when we can think about our marriage and how much fun we’ve had.  I can guarantee being on a diet or working out (beyond being recreational and active) won’t factor into it. 

Post # 160
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146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am having an emotional day..and your post made me tear up, mostly because I have wanted to write this too. I am not “fat” but according to society, I am. I am 5’5 140lbs. The heaviest I have ever been and I dont feel great about it either. Im used to being about 120lbs..but maybe those days are long gone..idk. I havent been doing any exercise for the wedding bc I think I am feeling so low about the things brides are ‘expected’ to do, that I want nothing to do with them. I eat healthy most of the time but guess what, I also love pizza and long islands..both of which contain sooooo many calories. Dont hate me for it, I am human before I am a bride. 

I too, am FED up! I dont care if your a size 4 or 14…big, small, no matter your color or race or height or age…every bride is beautiful…I am so sick of the pressure to lose weight ‘for the wedding’…making someone feel low about themselves wont motivate them to do/be better…it will only make them give up even trying. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 161
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1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@bretonvirgniia:  I am your exact height and weight, and I don’t consider myself to be fat.

 

However, my wedding dress is slightly too tight and according to the dressmaker not much can be done about it unless I lose weight. I’m so depressed just thinking about it!!

Post # 162
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MissMudge:  5’5″ and 140 lbs isn’t fat in anyone’s world. 

Post # 165
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My mom has always been on me aboutyay weight. I used to be a rower and have a killer curvy bod( 42-30-42) at 6 feet. However when I was 18 I tore all the ligaments and tendons in my lower leg. So obviously I gained weight. 

A couple nights ago my mom and sister and I were working on wedding decor and I was having a couple cookies. My sister commented asked why I wasn’t dieting. I told her that I didn’t need the extra stress and that Mr.Navy loves the way I look. My mom told me she was proud of me. 

Im going to call that one a win.  I am now a 49-36-49. I’m still pretty darn happy about my body most days, especially since I still have baby weight(dd is 5 months)

Post # 166
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@bretonvirgniia:  THANK YOU!!!! I totally feel the same way. I was getting all self conscious about it. Weight is something I NEVER worried about until now and all of a sudden I feel like I need to look PERFECT. I’m freaking out if I have the slightest bulge because I’d prefer not to wear shapewear (I find it uncomfortable!) And then alll of sudden I’m like WOAH since when do I freak out about this stuff?

Well, yes, guess what ladies, we’re all f*cking beautiful and the diet industry can take their money to hell with them.

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