Post # 1
We sent out all our invites a couple weeks ago, and RSVP’s were due today. Well, not only do we have tons of calling for those who haven’t turned in their RSVP’s. I also find out that people don’t understand what it means when an invitation is only addressed to one person, not one person plus guest or plus many. Future Mother-In-Law is not bringing her boyfriend who was the one we invited, instead she’s bringing random ex girlfriend on FI’s brother who apparently everyone is still close with except us!! I am so mad that she didn’t bother to tell me that she’s bringing a random girl who i’ve met twice and can’t stand until TODAY one month before my wedding. We cut our numbers and limited our family and friends, yet apparently we have plenty of room to invite random persons. Another one of my friends did the same thing, RSVP’d with an extra person. If the person is not in a relationship, dating, engaged, etc. and knows other there they don’t get a date, how hard is this to understand. Fiance just says what happens happens, nothing you can do about it. BUt it still pisses me off, we’re literally right at our limit as almost everyone has RSVP’d yes and I don’t want to go over because people invite random persons to our wedding when I worked soo hard to limit the guest list, even cutting out some of my long time friends. Sorry just needed to vent about how much this RSVP thing sucks and I’m looked at as the bad person, because I have to say no you can’t bring said date or let everyone do it and be over our total number and “deal with it” as everyone says.
Post # 3
Yikes, I’m sorry people are being that way. I say anyone who’s invited with a guest gets to choose their guest. However, you should tell people who were invited without a plus one that it’s not possible to accomodate their extras.
Post # 4
we’re date twins! our rsvp deadline is tomorrow, and we still have about 50 or so unaccounted for guests, despite the fact that we self addressed and paid postage on the return envelopes. also just got one in the mail today that was addressed to an unmarried family friend and i was shocked that she had rsvp’d for THREE… to include her daughter and her daughter’s date. at this point i just have to laugh. not that i dont want these people there, but folks need to understand that i have to pay for each guest that attends (dinner, drinks, favors…) and it’s just so strange to me that people dont get that. especially people that have been married before!!! grrrr
Post # 5
You can do something about it. Call the people who are adding on and say “I’m sorry but the invitation was only meant for those it was addressed to. We’ve had to cut a lot of people we are close with and would prefer not to have Random Ex Girlfriend/your random date there when we’re excluding people we know and love.” Those people were not invited, they do not get to come. I know it sucks to be the bad guy but you guys are paying for this, they don’t get to bring random people when your friends are excluded.
Post # 6
Yay, glad to see another date twin!! It’s getting soo close. Sorry you’re having to deal with extra people RSVPing also. I think i’m going to just leave it alone since right now it’s just 2 extras and we had a couple people RSVP for less than was invited, so it evens to about the right amount (we invited slightly over what we wanted, but several were out of town and we knew wouldn’t make it). It won’t hurt our budget any, it just makes the space slightly cramped but not too bad. Thanks for the advice. I just really needed to complain to someone as it’s very frustrating.