- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
In the past few days, everything has begun hitting the fan. After 5 years of dating my soldier, I know that nothing is ever certain in the Army but this is getting ridiculous.
Here was our original plan:
My fiance is stationed in on the west coast. He would take a 2-week leave for the wedding (9/28) and a short mini-moon, then he would go back to the west coast until his PCS date in late December and I would live with my family for a bit. When he moved to a new post in December, I would move with him and we would start our married lives there.
Then he called me the other day to tell me that we had hit a snag. His current unit is scheduled to deploy early next year and they have issued a stop-movement order for all troops planning on moving this winter. Basically they said “I don’t care that you’ve already been here for over three years, you’re not going anywhere and you’re deploying with us.” It threw a wrench into everything. Now they’re saying that he has to stay past his original date in December until they deploy for what I can only assume is 9 months next year, then when he returns he has to stabilize back at his post for another 6 months. Let me help you do that math. It basically means that he will have to call his current post his home base for another two years. Oh, and here’s the kicker. He will have to go for some kind of training in late September and we will have to cancel the wedding.
Honestly, neither of us are angry about the idea of him deploying. We’ve been through deployments before and will go through them again. It’s just a matter of when. What we’re angry about is the fact that he was supposed to be moving in September but they recommended that he extend his time there so that he wasn’t out-processing during the time we had scheduled the wedding. He was supposed to be gone and they told him to stay. Now, after 5 years of living on opposite sides of the country, we are faced with another 2. I am infuriated. I just want to marry the man I love, and if our pleas to get out of the stop move don’t work I guess I’ll just have to do that at the court house