Post # 1
I am so annoyed right now! I get as a new parent you are going to get all kinds of “advice” on how to raise your child. Normally it doesn’t bother me.
However, my two SIL’s are bugging the wazoo out of me with their questioning how my Darling Husband and I parent our almost 5 month old child. They both have children themselves, young ones to boot. So they both should know how it feels to get “parenting advice”.
I was unable to Boyfriend or Best Friend, so I get crap for feeding my child formula. Hey my son got milk from me, pumping wise until 2 weeks ago. A lot of different reasons why I couldn’t Boyfriend or Best Friend…
That is just one example of questioning.
Sigh, I wish they would just leave us alone we are doing what we think is best. If we have questions. I either ask my parents or DH parents or my doctor or consult the internet. And yes I do ask the SIL questions to on things but that is a rare occasion…
Post # 3
You can’t change what they say so the only thing you can change is your response. After you get a little more experience, it will be easier to slough off those remarks.
For now, just thank them for their advice or input, or say” I’ll take that into consideration”- then do what you feel is best.
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Post # 5
@Sassygrn: I have been there and done that, but looking back now, it wasn’t that bad. It’s just a bit overwhelming, cause it’s such an intense moment and people always try to help—
I also had that issue with my Boyfriend or Best Friend, but it ended 3 weeks after my son was born. People kept saying that he would get sick all the time etc. Never have I felt so helpless and insecure. I felt so miserable but I made it through. Just focus on you, and your baby. Don’t let it get to you. That’s what helped for me.
Post # 6
@Sassygrn: nip it in the bud. Your kids are cousins and their kids are older so it’ll always be this way. You have to shut them up NOW. It might be awkward but you’ve got YEARS ahead of you….
I got this when we got married, we had friends who got married a mere 1 year before us so they “taught us the ropes”. Finally we got sick of it and told them to leave us well alone. Besides-their relationship ISN’T ideal ;( (not the point). Point is: we knew they would torment us forever because we’re lifelong friends…so we bluntly told them and it’s stopped!
Post # 7
Its so frustrating. I have family members tell me how to parent. I should do this, I shouldnt do that. How about I’ll do what I want to do, because unless I am hurting my child ( which I would never ever do), keep your nose out of it.
I agree with PP, with time you’ll learn to ignore it, nod, smile, say, ” yeah, maybe…” and just forget about it. It isn’t worth dwelling over.