Stop questioning me! I've done NOTHING WRONG!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Run…do not walk…RUN away from this man.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s more than a few things. This guy is manipulative and controlling. If you’re not happy with this now, you won’t be 5, 10, 20 years from now since he will still be doing the same thing. 

I had dated someone like him (mild version) and I dumped him very, very fast. 

Post # 5
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yep – many years ago I was with a dude that was like this.  We broke up.  Turned out he was cheating on me which is why he was so paranoid about me cheating on him.  FWIW.

If you don’t want to end it, then at least get yourself to talk to someone…couples therapy would be ideal…..

Post # 6
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ummmm…I think you can do WAAAAY better.  Do not waste 1 more second with this person.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

My ex-husband was a lot like this. For 7 years of dating/marriage I was 100% faithful and didn’t give a reason to suspect otherwise. I feel your pain with much of the above…the constant suspicions about occasional lateness for no reason, checking my phone & e-mails. The worst was that I literally was not allowed to go out with my girlfriends or colleagues without checking in with him via call or text at least every 30 minutes. I only gave in to that because if I didn’t it turned into a 2-hour screaming match full of baseless accusations and accusing me of disrespect when I got home.  

Honestly I never really figured out what to do. No amount of reassurances seemed to help him, and i just got madder and madder for being accused and treated like a liar. 

So after 7 years of being faithful guess what? I did cheat. Now he’s my ex-husband and I couldn’t be happier. 

 

Post # 9
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Uhmmm GTFO NOW!!!  What a douche bag!

Post # 10
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

6 fantastic reasons to leave him and find someone who will treat you right…

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow. Wow, wow, wow. Honestly, I don’t think I’ve dated someone to that degree of.. well.. I don’t have the word.

But let me lay it down straight and crystal clear. That is seriously, unacceptable behavior. If he really suspects you of cheating, and even if you were, don’t you think he would just leave you at this point? I feel like you’re not doing anything wrong, based upon what you’ve said. Even if you were cheating, he has nothing to prove that. And if he really thinks that, he should just break up with you. I’d be thinking, is this gonna go on for ever? But, I also would be leaving him.. right now..!

Some people do say, and it has been true here and there, that if he’s projecting cheating upon you, that he may very well be cheating. But he may not be, he may just be really insecure, and even if it’s just insecurity, he probably shouldn’t be in a relationship until he can establish security within himself so that he can carry that into a relationship.

I would be so dreadfully hurt. And I would be very angry. I would never know what to expect. And I’d end up leaving him and it wouldn’t be pretty, but at least I could get away from that mess.  He clearly doesn’t trust you, at all. And it doesn’t matter how you prove your worth, redeem yourself, or show him that he’s wrong, he’s not trusting anything you say. And trust can destroy a lot of things. It’s part of the foundation. And then it comes out everywhere else.. like how you dress.

Has he always been like this? How long have you been together? When did this start happening? Was there a specific something that happened that started all of this?

Either way. I would try to sit him down and ask him what’s going on. Trying to get him to talk to you about on a deeper level. But really, I would just leave him. His insecurity is bleeding into you, and now you’re insecure.

And he’s just being completely disrespectful. He doesn’t have any kind of proof..?

This blows my mind!

I’ve been accused of cheating, but not like this.. And I’ve definitely been cheated on.. But whoa. :X

I am so sorry for you. I hope you are okay. And I hope you find some clarity. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

A friend of mine dated and was engaged to someone with a very similar personality. She was 100% faithful to him and yet he always questioned her and tracked her every movement. She thankfully left him before the wedding and it was the best decision she ever made. PM me if you want to talk more about it, I don’t want to air her dirty laundry all over the internetz. Good luck.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

In conclusion. Run, run very fast, and don’t come back..

Post # 16
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Oh man, what a fuckface.

I’d get out of that while you still can.

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