(Closed) Stop telling everyone my ideas!!!!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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609 posts
Busy bee

I think people put too much emotional energy into these mini wars with fellow brides and being absolutelypositivelyeverything unique. 

Post # 4
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

OH… I hear you… big hug** now calm down*** hug again? 

calmer?

Don’t stress about those things, enjoy getting married to the guy of your dreams, those are just details ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Deep, cleansing breath in. Deep, cleansing breath out. It’s a centerpiece. No one cares except you. This is not something that is worth getting upset about. It’s okay if someone has seen it before/done it before/etc. What makes your wedding unique is not what your centerpieces look like or what song you walk down the aisle to. What makes your wedding unique is the two people standing up front saying their vows….. aka YOU and your Fiance. The rest is just details. Now, one more deep, cleansing breath. K?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think there’s any need to get snarly at people. Weddings turn people into horrible creatures and start thinking there is this subconscious war between you and everyone else in the world.

At the end of the day, it’s a teapot with flowers in it.

You’ll be married. He’ll be married. Everyone will be happy and nobody will care about the centerpieces.

I don’t even remember the centerpieces from the last two weddings I was a bridesmaid in.

My suggestion to you is to stop showing people your ideas. I know you’re proud of your ideas and you’re excited, but clearly showing them to other people is going to lead you to heartache.

Post # 9
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4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that it is probably not as big of a deal as you’re thinking it is. Its just the centerpiece, right? Its not like all of your wedding details were sprawled out for FI’s brother’s fiance to see and pick from. People that are competitive over weddings and steal ideas are ridiculous, but there isn’t much you can do about them. Is it annoying? Absolutely. But again, nothing you can do unless you want to start an argument. I would just move on, not mention the centerpieces at all and continue your planning. If you are really worried just make sure to keep everything else hush hush so it isnt accidently mentioned or shown to her.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@BeeandBeeBride27:  FWIW, I think your idea sounds lovely. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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609 posts
Busy bee

@BeeandBeeBride27:  I’m not being snarky, I’m giving my opinion on a snarky “vent”. I’m surprised with Pinterest being so big that anyone can do anything unique anymore. 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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866 posts
Busy bee

@BeeandBeeBride27:  I don’t think what Femme said was snark. It’s a fact that people do get too caught up in this stuff, many of us do. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you are right to keep your ideas on the hush if you and Future Sister-In-Law are at odds and you suspect her of being…suspect.

The small details do count if it’s your wedding. As a current bride I feel your pain about trying to keep things fresh without spoiling it for all the guests.

I also feel your pain about trying to keep calm when this is a big dal to us but a non-issue to everyone else. ๐Ÿ™‚ Chin up – like the PP’s mentioned it’s ‘just a centerpiece’…no matter what it is just that and the big picture is what amtters.

Post # 15
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would stop sharing details with people who will spill the beans. Or tell them that you want everything to be a surprise for people.

Post # 16
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Seriously, I’ve got to agree with @MissFemmeFatale: a bit.  This is a whole lot of energy, frustration and anger over teapots.  Have you considered not involving your Future Mother-In-Law in all the details?  It certainly doesn’t seem that she’s sharing the details to hurt you, in fact she seems to be the Future Mother-In-Law that most brides on here would kill to have.  If there’s something significant to you that you want to keep a surprise, then buy it yourself and don’t tell anyone! 

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