(Closed) stop telling mom details?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Can you give her one task that you really don’t care about and let her run with it? If you’re paying for the task, then be sure you give her a clear, firm budget. That way she won’t feel completely left out, and you can leave her out of all of the details that you do care about.

Post # 4
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46681 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have posted this before, but, Randy from SYTTD was in our city a few weeks ago. The words he used that struck a chord with me were “If you are mature enough to get married, you have to be mature enough to have the wedding you want.”

Maybe it’s time to woman up and thank your Mom for her input but do it your way.

 

Post # 5
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@hecallsmelove:  I’ve had similar problems with my Mom. My piece of advice is pick and choose your battles, if something isn’t of the utmost importance to you then let it slide but don’t give in on everything.

We have a super large family, both my Mom and Dad come from families with 5 siblings and all those siblings are married/have kids. That’s before we get to Aunts and Uncles, cousins, friends, etc. FI’s family is tiny. We decided to have a small ceremony so we could keep that intimate feeling which my Mom was NOT on board with. She would pester us and pester us about inviting everyone b/c it wasn’t “fair” and she would have “no one to talk to.”

We ultimately met in the middle and agreed to have a picnic to celebrate with our extended family. We also agreed to invite my godparents to the actual wedding so each side of our extended family would be represented. By meeting in the middle she was happy and I was a whole lot less stressed. She also stopped giving her two cents on everything else.

Good luck and if it’s important to you then stick to your guns! It’s your day!

Post # 8
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3261 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve dealt with this with my mom before. I love her to death, but we have pretty different opinions on mostly everything I pick out. Just stick to your guns, but be respectful of her. 

Post # 9
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I definitely stopped sharing a lot of details with my mom.  She means well, but other people don’t always “get” your vision until it’s there in front of them.  I say, let some things be a surprise on the wedding day.  You’ll probably have a lot less stress.

Post # 10
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m exhausted with work, school, etc and would love to delegate more, but let’s be honest we have different tastes. — oh my gosh, story of my life!

Pretty much agree with the PP’s.

Post # 12
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t plan to share many details with my mom as she is super critical. 

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