(Closed) Stop the Mama-Shaming!

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Jess1483:  Thanks for posting this — I agree with you!

I’m not a parent yet, but something I’m dreading already is the inevitable mommy-shaming that I will face from friends and acquaintances (both with and without kids)… let’s all just let each other be.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA

@Jess1483:  Not a mom yet, but I love this thread.  The Bee definitely needed it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Amen! I  really enjoy reading discussions on different parenting styles, etc, but not when people are going to attack eachother or be sanctimommies.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Jess1483:  *stands and applauds you*

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well stated! I’m not a mom yet but totally agree, which is why whenever I talk about how I plan to parent someday, I preface it with I’m not a mom yet, but these are my current feelings. And I recognize I am in no position to judge how others parent since I have yet to be in their situation and truly do not know what I would do.

Parenting doesn’t come with a manual or rule book, that’s the beauty in it. We all have the right to make our own rules and do what we see best.  That’s why there are laws in place to protect children against abuse, etc. 

I love the saying I used to be the perfect parent – before I became one! 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Well said.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@JaneyDcat:  I love that.

I completely agree with what you said. I am not a parent yet, but I already find my choices judged. It’s kind of like on the engagement boards–some women like big diamonds, some small. Both are acceptable, and both are frowned upon by certain people. I think society is so judgy nowdays, and it make us question whether or not we are doing the right things. It’s enough to drive a person insane.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Good post!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Jess1483:  *appluase* that was perfectly said!! there is not one *right* way to parent. everyone does it differently and that’s ok. i wish more people would understand this!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Good post, OP.

I will say that I do feel strongly on the circumcision issue, and while I do see it is a bad choice, and I will be blunt and I say I judge it, that does not mean I think anyone is a bad mom. There is a difference. All moms make poor choices in parenting, but they do try to do their best for their kids, and as long as they are seeking their health and happiness, then there is no shame. So while I think that particular decision is a terrible one and a bad parenting move, that doesn’t mean I think any of the Bees who made that choice are bad parents. I like to think the majority on these heated threads would agree that it’s more about the single decision than the person making it. I know I will make shitty decisions, and I know people will judge for it – but I hope they judge the decision and not me as a person.

Even though I am not a mom, I really do enjoy reading some of the discussions, and it is clear you all love your kiddos a ton. Thanks for enlightening me.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Jess1483:  +1 great post! Been tired of seeing those other threads!

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