(Closed) stop the mommy wars

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Bumble bee

@Sparkidoodle:  I agree – everyone has their own style. Every family is different. Nobody compares marriages to the same degree, so why childrearing?

 

My BFF has been struggling with infertility, and she hates “Mommy Wars”. She says its a slap in the face when people complain and compare, when all she wants is a baby to love. I feel awful for her. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@MaggieF:  One thing of interest – they are putting your child at risk, just not to the same degree. Immunisation doesn’t protect 100%. That’s where herd immunity comes in. Her risk is far lower than an unvaxinated child though.

Here’s an interesting video explaining it better than I ever can: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-cKzzPkz2o

It’s a little sensationalist at the beginning, but the actual demonstration is excellent.

Demonstration starts at 1:48

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@MrsPanda99:  
Agree! I think putting the lives of your own child and other children (especially babies and immunocompromised kids) isn’t a debate. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@Sparkidoodle:  Going through these comments, all I see is butter after butter. What’s a butter, you ask?

Someone who agrees with something with a giant BUT attached to their sentence, which really isn’t being agreeable or supportive at all.

“I agree that mom’s should stop judging each other BUT I totally think it’s okay to judge a parent’s vaccination choices”

Super super lame. I have very strong opinions on most of these big parenting subjects, I’m not going to go around blasting you for your choice, so why do that to me for mine? There are always two sides to a story.

 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@quierajen:  Right?! There is no one right or wrong way to raise a child and people need to start accepting that. Just because one person does it one way does not make it the way everyone should do it. Ugh.

Mothers are hard enough on themselves without other mothers being in their faces about their choices. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@quierajen:  Because the choice not to vaccinate could legitimately kill other people’s children. It isn’t a live and let live argument. The rest are. I couldn’t give two hoots if you bedshare or have a caesarian. I care if you put the immunocompromised children I worked wth for years at risk because you reject science.

Incidentally, I get that there is a very small proportion that can’t be vaccinated for medical reasons. That is why it is so important other children are.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Why is the anti-mommy wars post turning into mommy wars? Anyway, OP, I loved this article and shared it on my FB page!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@quierajen:  Not vaccinating is dangerous and could affect my child. All the rest doesn’t affect my kid so do what you want. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@quierajen:  i agree that being a butter is super lame. So ill just be honest….if people make a decision that i thinkmis dangerous, particularly to my own child im totally going to judge them for it and chances are  ill keepmy kids away from them. Im not going go actively tell a stranger about my views though unless im asked or in a position where i need to stop something thatll affect my family

This includes but not limited to people who dont vaccinate, dont make kids put seat belts on, etc and so forth.

Its all very well to agree with articles lik3 this “stop the mommy wars, live and let live’ but im not going to pretend i dont judge other parents. You want to use eco friendly cloth diapers,..i dont but i dont give a rats ass if you do. You want to breastfeed until the kid is 2…i dont, but again i dint care. I DO care if your choices affect me and mine

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

So do you wonderful butters believe it is your place to force vaccination on a person who refuses them for religious reasons? Where is the line?

And as far as parenting choices that put you in danger, one could argue that certain parenting styles contribute to aggressive children and adults, do you judge those as well? 

 

I am not innocent about judging others for their choices by any means, but you come to realize that just as much as you or I judge them, they are judging you right back. 

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