amanda3334455: yes, I was friends with someone for over 10 years. She was in my wedding and all. I realized after the wedding was over that she was not a true friend. She made so many comments to me during my planning that I let them go, didn’t make a big deal bc I was happy and I thought she doesnt mean that.
let me tell you what she said so you understand why I stopped trying to repair the friendship.
First she said that no one is excited to be a bridesmaid, that hurt my feelings so much. To he a bridesmaid is an honor, and the fact that she thought it was an inconveinece hurt me beyond words.
Another time she was talking about my bridal shower, (which btw, she came up with the idea to throw me one), kept complaining about money and its a big job, I told her at one point to forget about it. My MIL eventually took over.
There were things I found out after the wedding was over through DH and I cpuldnt believe how she behaved. Abd DH told me that he will never speak to her again, her true colors have shown.
After the wedding we hardly spoke. I tried to call her and she would either not answer or barely talk at all. I finally confronted her and she basically told me that she didnt want to be around me bc I was happy and she was not. She was mad at me for not thanking her for her speech (which btw she told she was not doing a speech and I found out she only did one bc the best man told her too, and she was drunk during the speech). She said I yelled at her (I did not bc I didnt see her all night). She was mad bc I didnt finish school (I could not afford to finish and my current job gave me an opportunity, I got lucky). She made it clear she didnt want to hang out with me bc she would make plans with other girls in the group but would always blow me off. We kinda made up, We made some jokes and she said I do have to reach out, but she has not once ever made a phone call to me. Its been so one sided and I am done.
Furthermore, she is an extremly negativd person. I would tell her my plans with DH that we are saving for a house, or we were looking for an apartment thats bigger but we dont want to pay too much in rent and he response “why do you want to buy a house? I never want a house, its too much work” “you will never find an apartment for that kinda money” I couldnt take it. I realized that anytime I told her something I wanted or wanted to do, she always said “you cant do that” and I always accomplished my goals.she was soooo negative i cant have that in my life.
why be friends with someone who obviously doesnt care about you? When your happy they run away. Thats not a friend. Thats a selfish person.
Is it sad that I lost someone as a friend, absolutely. Its like breaking up with someone. If someone would have told me this 10 years ago that this would happen. I wouldnt have believed them. We were inseperable. But, thigs happen that make you realize that sometimes that they are the perso. You thought they were.