- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I wrote a few days ago about how one of my two bosses sent a cryptic email this past Sunday asking me to set up a meeting to discuss “how we’re doing” for this week. When I asked him to clarify he ignored my email for 3 days. (I don’t see him often, he has meetings all day and I’m his assistant.)
So we had the meeting yesterday. In a nutshell: Sweet f*ck, was it awful.
The backstory is I’ve been an executive assistant for six years. I left a wonderful boss who respected me at a very peaceful company to come here.
When I took this job I was told it would be high level and that they were glad to have someone with so much experience on the team, to manage their hectic lives. They told me there would be no personal favors/coffee runs/etc.
Since I’ve started I have gotten lunch or coffee for one or both of them almost every single day.
So we sit down, and boss #1 kicks off what will be an hour-long list of things I am doing wrong. At the top of the list was how i didn’t check his McDonalds order for sweet and sour sauce the last few times I got him lunch. He said “it’s things like this—the lack of consistency with my lunch orders–that make me wonder where else you’re being inconsistent.”
Bear in mind he and my other boss ask that I literally walk around the building and find them before each meeting because they are self described “cowboys” who need me to “wrangle” them into their meetings. So I’m running all over the building, fielding calls, handling their calendars, doing expenses, booking travel, but the fact that I didn’t burrow through his McDonalds bag to make sure the sauce was correct is a “red flag” according to him. Meanwhile I can’t remember the last time I ate before 4pm at this job.
I told him getting lunch interferes with my ability to be efficient. That running all over town–sometimes 30 minutes from the office–to get him food seems counterproductive. I asked if we could delegate it to an intern to do it and he all but said no–that I should be able to manage everything from my phone.
So then, the meeting progresses and they also complain that I don’t come to work happy hours enough, i leave too early (6:30pm for gym classes), and i haven’t bonded with the other assistants sufficiently enough. (Because apparently this is summer camp?) I mean trust me when I say that I am all smiles at work. But when work ends, my life is about my dance classes, Fiance, pets and friends. End of story!
He then asked me why i wasn’t responsive on email on Tuesday night and I told him I got engaged. After a hollow congratulations he goes “Okay so you could have sent us an email saying you were proposed to and would be offline for a few hours.”
What. The. !!!!!????
Sorry I didn’t put down the ring box, grab my phone and fill you in on my GD proposal in real time!!!! He had emailed me while I was getting engaged to fill me in on meetings that are happening days from now. The fact that I didn’t respond with “okay got it” AFTER HOURS made him freak out. It was never clearly stated to me that I am to be on call at all times in this position. Not once was that mentioned. In fact, I told them during my interview that my phone (I’ve since gotten a new one FOR THEM) was too old and slow to accomodate work email and they said “no problem.”
So, those are just a few of the things that were mentioned in this meeting. I sat there in shock the entire time, and got about 3 words in before our time was up.
After sleeping on it, I am now determined to leave, even though I’ve only been here for two months. It’s making me physically sick to deal with this culture and these people.
So, shameless plug moment–if anyone in the NYC area knows of any openeings, be it a coffee shop gig or beyond, please PM me!
That’s my saga/update. I think I’ll be leaving a quart of sweet and sour sauce on his desk when I depart….staring at my lovely ring and thinking of Fiance and our wedding the entire way:-)