- 2 months ago
Hello everyone!! I am so thankful for finding this website as I feel like I have no body to talk to about how I feel after my wedding. If you’d like to read a long story than buckle up because I’m going to let it all out!
So my wonderful husband and I have been engaged for 4 years. We were going to get married in 2019 but his parents told us we couldn’t because of their vow renewal. So we waited and had decided to do it summer of 2020. But had not told anyone. Later in the year his sister had gotten engaged. I quickly jumped on announcing our wedding date as I did not want to be told I had to wait another year. So they decided to have their wedding 2 weeks after ours. Unfortunately I have a bad relationship with my sister in law and mother in law. Which is a whole other story though. But it definitely made things tense and awkward and they seemed to bring like a competitive energy when discussing wedding plans.
My fiancé and I discussed what we were hoping for our wedding and we were thinking about 100-200 people. And we booked a really beautiful venue that did all the work for us! (Score) which made me feel less stressed as I am not the best at planning and I knew my mom would not help. Then due to covid we had to cancel our large wedding and months went by where we weren’t sure whether we would still get married or not. Finally when my dress arrived in June I decided full on I’m ready to go ahead and have a small elopement style wedding ar my parents beautiful acreage that overlooks the valley. I quickly got all my decor ready and everything that was needed ( a lot of preparation for just a few months beforehand) I decided to keep things simple with neutral tones. I ordered cupcakes and floral lollipops and cookies and I planned on doing a charcuterie board with all yummy snacks for guests. We decided to do an evening wedding and have the sunset for photos and do some twinkle lights in the trees.
leading up to our wedding my mother in law was laying on the pressure. “Only a few days away! You sure you’re ready?” “Don’t you want more things to do at your wedding?” “Let’s replan your menu” were some of the things she said a week before. She told me I cannot have a charcuterie board since it is insanitary during covid. She wanted to bring huge dining room tables to set up outside so everyone can social distance. (We had 20 people total) Eveeyrhing was getting so complicated that I just decided to do a dessert table and leave it at that.
The day of the wedding I woke up to my period. Which was no big deal but I was a little worried about my white dress. My lollipop lady said she was unable to get the flowers for them, even though I pre paid. Again not a huge deal. I went to my hair appointment at 1. My step daughter, and sister got their hair done and I was supposed to be next but my mom also wanted her hair done and went before me. That left no time for my hair so it was very rushed. Then next was make up which was nice but after my mom was picking up flowers and I was left outside my makeup artists home. I just walked until she was able to pick me up. The weather was cooler but still sunny and beautiful. At about 6 pm it started pouring rain. There were tornado warnings for our province but it was mostly just rainy. My fiancé forgot his dress shirt so left 30 minutes before our wedding to get one. The rain didn’t stop and everyone had arrived. We had no back up plan and I was kind of panicking. I just decided to say the heck with it! I wasn’t scared of a little rain. My fiancé texted me a beautiful message before heading out that calmed my nerves. When I walked down the isle my dad said something ridiculous like “here comes the bride all dressed in white”. Lol. I wasn’t able to play our song. The whole ceremony it poured. Our 4 children were all Infront of us/in the way a bit. All of our guests were talking amongst themselves since they couldn’t hear us. But everything stood still for my fiancé and I. It was like we were so calm and focused amongst the chaos.
A big thing we were banking on when it came to the wedding was utilizing my parents beautiful yard. We were going to do golf cart rides and walk in the coulee and enjoy the sunset. With the rain everyone just had to go into the house. Where nothing was set up well. Photos I’m assuming didn’t turn out good. Because my veil got so heavy from being wet and stepped on that it pulled my hair out and when I went inside after photos I was shocked that my hair was so messy. No one noticed or tried to fix it I suppose. I guess I also felt so bad my photographer was out in the rain that I rushed her home. My anxiety was high and I just felt bad she was out in the bad weather. So I missed a lot of family pictures and such. When I went in my train on my dress was soaked and got the floor wet which resulted in my fiancée grandmother falling. Everyone left with sympathetic looking faces. Telling me rain was good luck. Which I just mostly felt bad for everyone else. As soon as everyone left the most BEAUTIFUL sunset and rainbow appeared. But we were out of our wet clothes and the photographer was gone. I’m not going to lie it made me sad. I planned and dreamed and worked toward something that wasn’t even close to the day we had. I am still having anxiety thinking of all the things that went wrong, and wishing I could go back in time and wait until the sun came out. not to mention my mother in law just hosted a party with tons of finger foods and over 30 people… but made me feel bad about my plans.. But I also am trying to let it go. And think about all of the beautiful moments we had. Because there were a lot. From our loving family and special moments between my fiancé and I. It reminded us that the little details don’t matter and what truly is important was our love for one another. I’m so happy to be a wife to such a special person and I just hope in the future I don’t look back and feel sad about our day.
If you made it through the whole thing you are such a trooper!!!! Just remember that things don’t always go as planned and the main part of a wedding is your love for each other