YAY! Does this mean it’s working out? Congrats. 🙂
I don’t really understand the whole “engagement” thing to be honest. The way it went for me was that Mr. E and I decided we want to get married (no elaborate proposals or anything) but no rush. At some point after that I mentioned casually to my grandma something about it (I figured that after all the years we’ve been together, no big deal and they’d all assumed we’d do it eventually too) and it was all, “OMG! Are you engaged?!” and she started telling people I was engaged and stuff and planning parties to introduce Mr. E to the extended family and so on. (I guess, in this day, maybe it’s bragging rights that your grandchildren aren’t just shacking up for the indefinite future? 😉
If you guys want to just get married, that’s fine. Yay elopements!
Our plan is to just go to city hall and then have a nice afternoon out and dinner. There’s still some planning involved because the city hall appointments book up months in advance, and we’re still talking about photography and we haven’t decided on a restaurant yet, and I definitely want to dress up (not super formal, but something classy and pretty) and we’re still deciding on rings… and this is all just to elope. 🙂
After we’re married, we’ll send announcements and have a cake party maybe a month or so later.
Do you need to do that much? Absolutely not! But if the wedding itself may follow quite quickly after you guys decide to get married, you might start pre-planning for it now, like look into the paperwork required, what documents you need, any waiting periods (you guys are in different countries, right?) and make sure that’s ready to go.
Start deciding what things you do want now… is it just going to be paperwork and then back to business as usual, or is there a specific location you want to say your vows? Are there certain friends or family members you want there? (Do you want to do it by yourselves?) Is there anything specific you’ll want, like a dress, that you don’t already have ideas about?
There really isn’t a wrong way of doing it, but at the same time, you should have a day that feels special to you. 🙂