(Closed) Strange BM requests?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
47 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

Wow I haven’t had any strang requests but I am learning the same thing you are- young BM’s = selfishness and misunderstanding of a Bridesmaid or Best Man role!!! 


I have two younger BM’s (17 and 20, my MOH) and I think the 20 yr old gets it but I have sent emails so many times needing answers from the group about things and she NEVER responds. I am in another wedding, my bff’s and one of her BM’s is young and caused a TON of issues because things weren’t what SHE wanted and she didn’t like it. 


I just don’t think they understand that they are supposed to be honored to be part of this, not have us feel like they are doing us a favor. Hang in there, just realize that she is young (although I know we prob wouldn’t have acted like that at that age!) and just doesn’t get it. My best advice is to have another Bridesmaid or Best Man deal with her, even if she doesnt know her- kinda the one to take the crap for you. Ask another one to privately message her on fb or something and just say look, we are really lucky to be part of this, I don’t want to make (your name) anxious by you not being there, I think you should politely get out of the grad commitment…. just to deflect this away from you- it’s the last thing you need!


Sorry for the novel, I get heated about this stuff lol 

Post # 4
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, I think this one just has to be chalked up to the fact that she is 18, and when your 18 its all about you, esp around graduation!  

She prob won’t see why this is rude until she is at least 20 🙂

Post # 6
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Bridesmaid or Best Man1 requested a specific type of dress when my first choice fell through.  No problem.  Then shoots down all of the readily available options for BMs 2 and 3.

Bridesmaid or Best Man3 says 8 weeks prior, she hasn’t budgeted for it, so can I buy it?  OK.  So I find several suitable ones.  She says they don’t come in her size.  Won’t tell me her size.  I happen to find a dress that fits sizes M-XXXL.

Bridesmaid or Best Man2 asks what type of dress.  I tell her, and say I can order it if needed (knowing she already had a trip to England planned between the time I asked her and the wedding.)  She says “great, I’ll run it by you when I select one.”  It’s 9 days til the wedding.  She still doesn’t have a dress.  There is nothing in the style we need available within a week.  My mom and I have to make one for her.  

Sorry about your Bridesmaid or Best Man…  

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