Post # 1
Hi bees, I need your help. My mom passed away awhile ago, and her best friend has offered to throw me a bridal shower. It is so sweet and meaningful to me that she wants to do this, but there are some logistics that may prevent it. FH and I live about 4hours away from the host, and anyone I would invite lives about 1.5 hours away from the host. I would hate to accept her offer and have everyone decline because of the travel time. I would also hate to ask the host to somehow plan a shower 1.5 hours away from her home, especially because there are only about 6 girls to invite. My bridesmaids are sweet girls but I know it would never even cross their mind to throw one themselves. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions for me? I’m so upset! I know it’s very petty and the important part is that I marry the man of my dreams in the end, but I wish I too could have all the girly, pre-wedding celebrations! 🙁
Post # 3
Is your host set on having it at her house? Maybe if you encourage her to hold it at a cute restaurant a half hour closer to your guests they would come?
Post # 4
I agree with the previous poster — can you figure out a way for it to be somewhere between the two locations?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I’m sorry about the loss of your mom. This situation is tough, as you don’t want to say no to somone hosting a party for you! But when it comes down to it, you might want to make it more convenient for your guests. Hosting a shower isn;t too stressful- just call a restaurant and have them set up a room for you with a fixed menu (we did soup and salad in the back roomo of a cute restaurant for my best friend for like $14 per person and it was great)
And not to sound rude but why the heck aren’t your BM’s hosting your shower? Isn’t that like pretty much their only duty???
Post # 6
Are you sure that she’s planning to host it at her home? If I were in her shoes I would host it at a restaurant where you live, for sure. I’d just talk to her openly about it. I’m sure she would love to do this for you and would definitely be willing to host near you, if that hasn’t crossed her mind yet.
Post # 7
Hi bees, thanks for your responses. I emailed the (possible?) host and let her know that as much as I appreciate her offer, I would hate to ask my guests to drive that far for a shower. She replied to let me know that I can change my mind at any time and to let her know. My bridesmaids are super sweet, And while we’re very friendly, they are FH’s long term friends and they don’t have much “real life” experience and I’m sure it would never cross their mind to throw a shower, and I certainly wouldn’t ask for one. Looks like this one I’ll just have to get over and move on.