(Closed) strange question …. using married name before getting married

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sort of, but not really. I have begun calling my Fiance my husband – simply because it is easier to say! Silly? Yes, but I do it with the best of intentions.

Post # 4
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m not going to lie, I would LOVE to go ahead and start using my soon-to-be new last name. Mainly because my current last name is 11 letters and my new last name is only 5 haha. But I’m not going to. I kind of feel like it takes away from using it once you’re actually married!

@rosepinkslipper – I can totally relate. I’m so sick of saying “fiance.” I’m ready to call him my husband!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

lol I use it sometimes. Before I got engaged too. But my fiance calls me his wife when we would go out..it just was better than saying my girlfriend and he hates that word Fiance, not sure why. I was a lame-o and started to practice my signature with the new last name hahaha.. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

no, i don’t use his last name and we don’t call each other “husband” and “wife” just yet. i can see how others do though, i think its natural because the mind-set is already there.

haha, i think Fiance and I are immature or something because once in a while i’ll say, “you’ll be my husband” or we’ll be “the hislastnames”…and we’ll both giggle and act like dorks. ha!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I did on a couple little things that I signed up for in the months before the wedding like the dog food’s frequent buyer card that would be too obnoxious to change later but using it frequently would have been odd for me.  Not so much because it takes away the shine but because giving up my maiden name has been hard.  I still haven’t finished changing my name officially or socially and it’s been 6 months!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I dont personally see anything weird about using his last name. My Fiance frequently refers to me as his wife (as in “sorry boys, night in with the wife), as well as calls me Mrs. (his last name) when he is trying to get my attention or he will sign the (last names) to cards he sends out. He says he likes the way it feels. I’m trying to think about why this would be weird and I can’t come up with anything…

Post # 9
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Actually, one of the ways to change your name is to assume that name. Just start calling yourself that name and it’s yours. Yes for it to appear on your legal documents you have to get it legally changed, but for many things it wouldn’t matter. Like I got my oil changed at the Jiffy Lube and updated my record to my married name. But I could have told them my new name was Cleopatra Dirtbike and it wouldn’t have mattered to them, so long as I paid my bill.  🙂

So yeah, it’s a little strange to jump the gun, but there’s nothing legally amiss here. I started saying my new last name before I was married—once I got used to it in my head, it started coming out my mouth too!

Post # 10
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2309 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Thats a little weird. But I guess its her choice.

Post # 11
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sort of odd- I will not pubicly start using his name until we are married.

But I must confess that I have reserved an email address already for my future married name.  When I found it it was available, I wanted to snatch it up right away since I love my email address right not as it is [email protected] 🙂

I’ve been teasing him about changing our dog’s last name on her tag to his, since he is going to “adopt her” when we get married.

Guess we all have our things….

Post # 12
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I guess I think it’s a little weird, but to each their own.  I wouldn’t do it, because it’s one of the things about getting married that I’m really excited about.  Not all that much is going to change for us after the wedding…we’ve been together for 6 years, been living together for 2, bought our first home a year ago, we’ve been committed to each other on this level for a long time.  So I’m excited to experience some of the other changes that come with marriage….calling him my husband, changing my name…and I don’t want to ruin the fun I’m having anticipating!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I use my fiance’s last name sometimes, mainly when I call restaurant to make a reservation or to order food and if they ask for my last name.  My fiance’s name is 4 letters, 1 syllable and everyone can spell it, which is different than my current last name.

Post # 14
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1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We just moved and I started using a new dry cleaners.  I used my future last name there so I wouldn’t have to change it in 6 months.   But not for anything else.

Post # 15
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

A couple of years ago, before we were engaged or even talking about marriage, R and I went to the hairdresser and I ended up using his last name. I wasn’t really in the mood to spell everything out for them and his name was already on file. They sent me some mail a couple of weeks later to Sara Lastname, R thought it was hilarious!

I been arguing with an unnamed company for the past couple of months, and it was just a lot easier to say that our account was under my “husband’s” name. Plus. it gave me a little creditability so I could actually talk with them instead of being fed some BS.

 

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