Post # 1
First off….I’m having a smaller wedding than average, about 50-60 people. I am making a seating chart for everyone since we have seperated families and just want to keep peace between everone. Our wedding is a destination wedding for everyone invited so I allowed a + 1 for all guests that are single. I got an rsvp back from his cousin today that just says We, Jessica and guests Can’t Wait!
I’m assuming by writing the word “guests” she means more than one…duh. I don’t know if she means 3 or 6!! I do not have extra room for more than just the plus ones I’ve planned for….What do I do? Allow her to bring more than one guest since she’s making it a vacation or do I tell her she can pick just one of her friends to come to the reception? I don’t care how many people she brings to the beach with her but have a problem with a bunch of people I don’t know coming to the actual wedding….I’ve only met her once and do not feel comfortable confronting her and sounding like a bitch…
Post # 3
Call her and ask how many guests she’s planning on bringing. Let her know that you only have space for 1 extra at the wedding + reception, but that she’s free to bring as many as she wants to the beach with her.
Post # 4
Since she is your FI’s cousin, and you don’t feel comfortable talking to her, I highly suggest that you get your Fiance to contact her to get clarification and to also let her know about the situation with the wedding.
Post # 5
I would just ask her how many she was meaning and then if it is more than one, just explain that you don’t have the extra room for them at the reception and go from there! I think it is a little rude of her to assume she could invite more than one guest….I would just explain it and go from there!! Good Luck:)
Post # 6
That’s what my mom said, just tell her she can only invite one to the wedding….I’m feeling bad about it because in her hometown (where my SO is from) wedding’s are more like a drunkfest than a dinner party. He said people just show up in and out all night (invited or not). They all use the same caterer in town who makes food all night and all weddings are in the same Hall and there’s no limit to how little or large your guest list can be….I feel like everone in his family is going to be so confused that I have a certain number of guests to maintain and they’ll be really shocked when they see that I have assigned tables!! lol
Post # 7
I agree with @noritake22 . See if Fiance can email/call her and very nicely explain that you can only have one +1 per guest at the venue. Hopefully she’ll be cool with that.