Post # 1
I’m going to Jason’s best friend’s jack and jill baby shower (and he will be the godfather!) on Sunday, and today I started getting pangs of anxiety and sadness.. I’m starting to get really uncomfortable about the whole thing, l don’t really know many of the guests (maybe 4 or 5) and I’ve only met his friends a few times…
But moreso about just being generally uncomfortable because I don’t know people, I’m worried about being “the girlfriend”, most of the guests have known Jason as “Jason and Mrs. ex Jason”… Some of them might not even know he got divorced! And with mostly married people going to this baby shower I feel…. sad. I want to be more than just a girlfriend!! I want to get married and have babies… What is he waiting for?! (I know, I know, there are a million reasons to wait!)
ugh. waiting blues suck. 🙁 just had to vent.
Has anyone had similar feelings?
Post # 3
Awwe…don’t get too down. But I hear ya. To be honest, though I hate to admit this, I get rather shy too when I’m around people I don’t know. I’m the girl that slouches in the corner some where to not be seen.
I sooooooo wish my SO would propose to me already also. I think it’s more of a financial thing right now though. Which I just don’t get!! Just because he proposes to me now doesn’t mean we have to get married RIGHT AWAY!!
Post # 4
i definately understand about being with people you don’t know, especially when your SO does know them… no matter how much he tries to involve you, ultimately you will end up in a conversation where you don’t know the context and you will feel left out.
my SO works at a kids camp, and has for many years. his brother and sister do, and all his friends do. when i get together with them every other sentance is “the ranch this…” or “the ranch that…” SO IRRITATING.
but i’ll definately be thinking of you on sunday! particularily that no one makes it awkward regarding the whole “ex mrs..” stuff – that would suck, so my thoughts go with you!
Post # 5
YES definitely..I often times feel so silly introducing Boyfriend or Best Friend as just that..my Boyfriend or Best Friend. I know Im not old in the least bit (25!) BUT I am a grown woman and so is Boyfriend or Best Friend…should I start calling him man-friend? LOL…anyways, I LOVE being around my pregnant friends..it fascinates me. I feel sometimes like I’m falling behind b/c Im not married, not even engaged, or having children yet. Its rough..but just remember “Good things come to those who wait!”
Post # 6
I am right there with you.. This weekend Mr. Tee and I will be going to a wedding and I am so not looking forward to being introduced as his “girlfriend”.. I am really getting tired of the LD and all I want to do is be with him.. be his wife and start our life together. Waiting blues do suck.. very very badly!
Post # 7
@fuschiasparkles: There was a thread about this a while back. I just call Boyfriend or Best Friend by his first name and have had multiple occasions where people just assume we are engaged or married.
I want to take the line from Carrie in Sex and the City where Carrie calls her new man her “lover”
Post # 8
Thanks for all the support ladies!! I will know a few people there, but *shock* they are married or engaged… I think I’m also bothered because my birthday is coming up (the 10th!) and I’m turning 24 and I was SUPPOSED to be getting married in May, not that I want to marry my ex, he’s a jerk… But it’s still sad when you think your going to be at a certain point in your life and then that time comes and you can’t even see an engagement in sight! Ugh.
Wish me luck. And maybe he’ll surprise me with SOMETHING romantic on my birthday… (lets not get my hopes up, haha he’s not very romantic)