Stranger helped me during a storm, would be weird if I asked him out?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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Busy bee

I would definitely still ask!! The worst is he says no, and you don’t talk again! If you’re a bit shy you can say as a pay back for his kindness, and figure out more info there!!!

If I was a guy with a girlfriend, I would be helpful but wouldn’t be going THAT out of my way. He could’ve easily let you get an uber. A girlfriend may be a bit uncomfortable with what he did for you, making me think he might be single.

Post # 62
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Helper bee

beach_lover89 :  Aww. That’s the beauty of playing it cool. If he is single and interested, he will jump at the opportunity to pursue you back. If not, you’ve not put any pressure on the situation, you’ve just done what any kind person would do. We are all rooting for you. 

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

beach_lover89 :  Ok, seriously, if this works out, you slid right into his life.

Post # 64
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Newbee

Ask him out! This reminds me of a Hallmark movie haha, so cute!! As others have suggested, you have nothing to lose in this situation. I say go for it, girl! 

Post # 65
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Bumble bee

You know something? He sounds like a really great guy…. and if you don’t ask him out, sounds to me like some of the other bees would like to! (HA!!) So get on it, girl!

Besides, even if this other person (out of town) IS a girlfriend, you don’t don’t know how serious it is.  Maybe he went there to break up with her because she’s a mean, raging alcoholic with green scaly skin who breathes fire.:)

If you were daring enough to ask him to dinner and he’s  committed, all he would have to do is to say, ‘ sorry, but I have a girlfriend.’  to which you reply, ‘oh, well, I didn’t know’ because…. of course you didn’t know. How could you?

This is a really beautiful story, regardless of how it ends. Even if he has a girlfriend, he did something kind for a complete stranger for no reason other than to be helpful, and with no expectation of anything in return. It’s heartwarming to know that these kind of people still exist.

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had to pursue my Fiance just a little bit, because he was nervous. Don’t assume he’s not into you just because he isn’t throwing himself at you or hitting on you. Some guys are just polite and/or shy! You won’t lose anyyyyything by asking him out for a thank you coffee/beer. 

Post # 67
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Blushing bee

Male roommate, dog, out of town visiting someone – sorry,   pinging my gaydar.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

henryetta :  i seriously have zero idea how you would come to that  conclusion 

Post # 69
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Blushing bee

 Kw617 : plus, he knows how this works. If a guy wants something, he goes after it. He has already proven he is not passive.

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Theres definetly passive guys, dont let that get you down bee.
My best friend met her now partner of 8 years by chance and he was totally clueless at the beginning!
This could be a start to something wonderful! And if not we’re all here for you anyways. Keep us posted Bee!

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Commenting to follow and definitely hoping for a happy update!

Post # 73
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Can you Facebook stalk him to see if it says he’s in a relationship?? I would totally try haha. 

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Agree with the bees who said this is a guy who takes initiative. If he wanted to ask her out, he would have. I would not text him anymore until he texts about the car, then go over and offer a small useful gift (like a thank you card with a starbucks gift card or something). He will have another opportunity to ask her out then if he wants to. Otherwise, let it go.

Post # 75
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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Post # 76
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Low risk, high reward.

Post # 77
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m glad everything worked out and he turned out to be a nice person but surely I can’t be the only one thinking “girl you did what!”.

Leaving your car and accompanying a stranger into their home and accepting a drink off them when no one knows where you are is not really a safe thing to.

Post # 78
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

lesbeeinlove :  

I don’t know.  Looking at it from his POV, he could be reluctant to make a move out of concern about not looking like a creeper. Rescues stranded female, brings her home, then makes a move on her.  A sensitive guy may feel uncomfortable with that.

Just a thought.

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

sassy411 :  Completely agree. It’s clear this man is very kind and seems to be aware of how to treat a person of the opposite sex, specifically how to treat them with respect. If I still had someone’s car in my driveway and they needed my help to get them their car, it would be EXTREMELY awkward for me to ask that person out in that moment. it’s almost like you’re holding their car hostage in case they say no. I totally get why he wouldn’t ask her out yet. In fact, I’m now thinking if he did that’s rather rude, because he has no idea how she feels and he could be putting her in a really awkward position that she can’t get out of. 

Plus, can I just put it out there that having her park in his driveway means there HAS to be communication between them? Perhaps that was him taking a step forward. My fiance INSISTS he’s the one who initiated our first date because while we were swapping travel stories (via Facebook message) he hinted he couldn’t tell all his stories online. Then I asked him if he wanted to meet up over pastries and coffee. Most people (including myself) would say I’m the one who initiated, but he says he opened the door. Maybe this guy feels he already opened the door!

Post # 80
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would just go and pick up your car, bring him a bottle of wine as a thank you, and as I’m leaving say ”let me know if you want any help drinking that ;)”.

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