Post # 1
FI’s mom’s best friend is hosting a bridal shower for me in a couple weeks. FI’s family lives about 10 hours away, so it’s a good opportunity for me to meet all of FI’s female relatives and family friends before the wedding.
What should I get her as a thank you/hostess gift? I have never met this woman and know almost nothing about her. So far the information about her I’m getting from Fiance is pretty useless. I think it is incredibly generous of her to host this given that she’s never met me, so I don’t feel like a nice bottle or wine or something is sufficient. I’m flying down, so it needs to be something I can easily/quickly purchase or something I can bring on a plane.
Thank you in advance for your suggestions!
Post # 3
Ooo… tough one. I think the first thing should be a nice heartfelt card for her generosity.
Maybe you could get her a gift certificate for her and FI’s mom to go get massages? Or some other activity she likes?
Post # 4
Shit.. I’m going to keep checking this thread. I have a shower next weekend thrown by 2 of FMIL’s friends and I haven’t even thought about this!
For my other shower my Fiance came at the end and brought flowers for the hostesses… is this enough? In our circle it seems to be what we all do?
Post # 5
First, if you want information about your FMIL’s best friend, you need to go to your Future Mother-In-Law, NOT to your Fiance. My husband can talk to HIS best friend and get off the phone and mention something they talked about, I’ll ask him for more detail, and he won’t know, (usually because he didn’t ask). Most men just aren’t that great with that kind of thing, especially not with their mom’s friends!
I agree with Mrs.D-To-Be to give her a heartfelt card. I would also include a gift certificate to her favorite store or restaraunt.
Post # 6
The same thing happened to me! I had no clue what she’d like so I got a candle, body wash and fine chocolates. I put them in a bag with a note that said “thank you…” then put a note around the candle saying “…for brightening up my day”, a note around the body wash saying “…for showering me with love”, and a note around the chocolates saying “…for being so sweet”. Then I just attached a card with it saying how grateful I was. She really seems to like it!
Post # 7
@Miss Apricot: I totally agree. Part of the problem is Future Mother-In-Law is out of town (and communication) until right before the shower.