(Closed) Stranger making too much physical contact with your SO?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Be the bigger person.  Don’t do anything.  She’s EXPECTING you to do something, so burst her bubble and don’t.  The fact that your Boyfriend or Best Friend didn’t even notice what she was doing, let alone react in any way, should be enough to make her feel stupid.

Right now, she’s making herself look like an ass.  Just leave it alone.  You’re above that.

Post # 4
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1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@badabing88:  I don’t know that I have any advice. I don’t understand this person and her need to make you feel this way- that’s crappy. She sounds like a classy woman.

Post # 5
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, she is trying to get a rise out of you in a completely, obvious outright way. If it were me, I would go right up to her next time and tell her to back the eff up and keep her hands to herself if she wants them to stay attached to her body. Some bees may tell you to take the high road and ignore her, but she’s being such a bitch that I would make it a point to let her know exactly who she’s messing with. But that’s just me and I can be a bitch myself 😉 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

First of all, I think her behavior is weird as hell.

 

Personally, I would literally just do nothing for now. Like you said, she is trying to get a rise out of you, and the last time you showed even the slightest bit of concern, her actions excalated. Don’t give her what she wants, and hopefully she’ll just stop when she reliazes it isn’t bothering you.

 

I know you said you didn’t want your SO involved, but if it continues, that is what I would suggest. She absolutely will not stop if the demand is coming from you, it will just add fuel to the fire. But if she realizes that your SO isn’t into it, she might back down. Personally, if I were your SO, I’d be creeped out by the whole thing and I would want to say something to her about it, not only because it bothers you, but because it would bother me as well.

@oneofthesethings:+1. She is making herself look like a complete idiot by doing this to get a rise out of two people who are clearly not paying attention (even though you are, she doesnt really know that yet). You don’t want to risk making yourself look like an idiot by making a scene.

 

I’m not saying this because I think you should “take the high road.” I am saying this because I really think it is the most effective way to handle the situation.

Post # 8
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SweetWildflower1:  Responding to classless behavior by acting equally classless isn’t exactly taking the high road.

Post # 10
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

That’s weird.

Honestly, he just needs to tell her to back off if she tries it next time. Don’t return her attempts at high fives and tell her that it’s inappropriate if she tries the backrub/shoulder pat thing. If she knows it upsets you, she’s gonna keep doing it… but it’s a little hard to keep touching a guy who’s said no out loud.

Post # 11
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think I’d just feel bad for her.  Obviously she’s desperate for attention whether good or bad.  What an awful life that she must  have to get her thrills from flirting with someone else’s SO.  I’m not being catty, seriously.  She must get so little attention in day to day life that she’s latching onto males who are forced to interact with her on a regular basis. 

Post # 13
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3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Whether it’s true or not, have your Boyfriend or Best Friend tell her to quit touching him because it makes him uncomfortable.  Because, honestly, he should be uncomfortable with a creepy older chick touching him.  He shouldn’t mention you at all.  

 

Post # 14
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MissCalifornia:  +1, OP I know you say you don’t want to get your Boyfriend or Best Friend involved – but if he allows her to continue to act that way she inevitably will. If he leaves her hanging next time she goes in for that high five, she’ll find someone else to rub on LMAO.

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