well this was not a reaction to my engagement necessarily, as it happened the day before my wedding, but I think it still applies.
Ok background: so my mom really wanted to invite this woman, let’s call her Betsy, to our wedding. Betsy and my mom used to be really close many years ago (like when I was a little kid) because Betsy lived next door to us. Betsy moved away ages ago but my mom remained in touch with her and I guess for sentimental reasons wanted to include her in the wedding. I said fine, even though I haven’t seen Betsy in probably 15 years at this point. It is relevant to the story to mention that Betsy is a devout Catholic. Like has 9 children that she homeschooled to keep away from the evils of the secular world, goes to mass every day, type of devotion.
Anyway, as we were driving to the rehearsal dinner the day before my wedding, I check my email on my phone and I see I have an email from Betsy with the subject line “Thoughts sent to me by God during this morning’s mass.” Interesting! So I proceed to read the email, which is like 9 paragraphs long, and basically tells me that God spoke to her at mass that morning and told her to urge me to cancel the wedding because my husband is Jewish and I am being horrible to my “sweet, unborn child” by bringing him into the world wiht a non Christ-loving husband. I AM NOT KIDDING. “How will your child ever know the love of Jesus?” – direct quote. Paragraphs upon paragraphs begging me, telling me it’s not too late to call it off, Jesus told her to say this to me.
Now I am literally in the car heading to the rehearsal dinner with my bridal party and I just lost it at this point. We had had a really stressful engagement due to the challenges of putting together a secular/Jewish/Christian wedding that was true to our own values/beliefs, while respecting our mutual traditions, while not totally offending/devastatig one side or the other of our family, and this was just the last straw. I burst into tears and my bridesmaids were having to console me the whole drive to the venue, and then I had to wear sunglasses throughout the rehearsal so people couldn’t tell I’d been weeping. What a mess!!!!!!!
Anyway, I calmed down and decided to ignore the email, because truly, there are no words. I told DH about it and we had a laugh. Wedding day arrives and I am not thinking about the email anymore because of the excitement and happiness of the day. Imagine my surprise when Betsy not only shows up to the wedding but has the fucking nerve to come through the receiving line and greet us!!! I was cold but civil to her, and then she left – which means that on top of everything else, we paid for her meal that she didn’t eat (also she had rsvp’d for two people and dind’t bring her date, so technically we were out two meals). Which, really, it’s for the best that she didn’t stay, but still just another level of rudeness/absurdity.
Then the next day, she sends me ANOTHER EMAIL telling her god spoke to her again at mass and said it’s okay that we got married, we clearly love each other, and she has faith that Jesus will find a way to speak to my husband and bring him on board the Christian train. THANK YOU BETSY, GLAD TO HAVE YOUR STAMP OF APPROVAL!
So yeah that was the craziest reaction we had to our pending nuptials.