(Closed) Strangest reaction to your engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

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emmabird :  My favorite was when my sister told her Mother-In-Law about my engagement. My sister excitedly announced my engagement and her Mother-In-Law gasped and asked how that could happen. It later became clear that her Mother-In-Law thought I was nun and that my engagement meant I was giving up my religious vows. 

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space

I actually forgot about this until someone else’s comment triggered it but my sister’s reaction was a quiet “Omg!” that sounded like excitement and then swiftly turned into “Ugh! Omg! What is wrong with me?” and complaining that her life sucks because everyone else is having babies and getting married.

My grandma also said something along the lines of “It’s about time. We were worried it was never going to happen!” and then told me not to tell my mom she told me that. 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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emmabird :  I don’t recall any strange reactions when my husband and I got engaged…..but I will admit to being the wierdo that will offer to help with planning and crafting to someone I’m not especially close with in reponse to an engagement announcement, lol. But I usually remember to explain that I just really find crafting and matching things fun. Lol.

Post # 34
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Blushing bee

I had a cousin that kept saying how surprised she was when we finally had a chance to talk on the phone about a month after our engagement. It was weird, because both my fiance and I are in our early 30s, we’ve been together for a few years, and have always been serious, ie we were never casually dating around or took a break. It’s also odd because her twin sisters are 3 years older than me, and they both got married when they were about my age and their relationships were in similar places to where my fiance and mine were.

Post # 35
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Worker bee

I received a message on FB from my freshman college roommate who I had not spoken to in 4 years. We really hit it off before we moved into school, and then she moved in early because she was on the dance team and had practice the week before all the other freshman moved in. She is what I like to call a chameleon. She very much wants to always be apart of the “in-crowd” so she morphs into the personality needed to fit in to that particular crowd, and the dance team girls were very catty, all about looks, and were just down right kinda mean and she went from down to earth country girl to a not nice girl. We never hung out once I moved in, she was always with the other girls, and I am very shy so I had a hard time finding friends and being involved. I ended up transferring to another college the following year and met my Fiance. 

She messaged me to congratulate me on my engagement and apologized for being a mean girl and blamed the dance team girls she was hanging out with for her behavior and that she regretted it for a long time. It seemed kinda fishy to me. I needed to get engaged for you to reach out and apologize even though you’ve claimed you’ve regretted it for a while? I suggested going to grab lunch to catch up and it took her 2 months to get back to me to make plans. We went to lunch, all was well, then it took another 4 months to meet up again. Then I had asked her and her boyfriend to come over for drinks and apps for the end of summer on my patio and she said sure and then never responded when I asked what date would be better for her…3 months ago. So I would say that was a weird reaction to my engagement. 

My grandma asked me, “are you still going to want to marry him next year?” which I thought was rude but my grandma always says weird, inappropriate things, and my Future Father-In-Law, who I DO NOT like, asked MY MOTHER if she thought my Fiance and I were going to make it. It stunned my mom so much and it really pissed my Fiance off. Other than that, all has been positive!

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

A friend of my husband, who he had at one time been interested in (she was interested as well but they never dated), has stayed in our little group of friends. This all happened before I knew them, so it never really bothered me. Aside from the occasional territorial comment (because she was around before me?), we’ve not really had a problem with her. It was obvious she didn’t really care for me, but then once we started talking about getting engaged she tried to get close to me. She actually got married the same year we did, so was constantly trying to bounce wedding ideas off of me, etc.

When we got engaged, though, she acted like she was excited for us but would then say things like “When I first met you, I didn’t think you were a good fit for ____.  But it’s been great to see the change in you since you started dating ___, and I really like you now and think you two are perfect together!” She said that to me at least twice and no one has any idea what she means by the change I apparently went through. Like I suddenly, radically became this new person after 30 years of life lol. My guess is she realized I wasn’t going anywhere and had to justify her initial dislike of me.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

When my ex told his mother that we were engaged, she fell to the floor, kicking and screaming. Later she told him that she would committ suicide. She did not.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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mimivac :  Wow.. I think you won the thread. I’m sorry you had to deal with that!

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

So far it’s been overwhelmingly super positive, but a friend from college has taken to hitting on me all of a sudden since the engagement.

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I haven’t had any super weird reactions, but last weekend a random family friend of my FH commented on my ring and said, “Not to be rude, but is that your temporary ring until you get the real one?” I was so offended, I just stared at her with my jaw on the floor. My ring is gorgeous and my diamond is not small. So rude! 

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I had one woman in my office congratulate me, then outright ask me if I was pregnant. Um, no….

Post # 42
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Helper bee

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mimivac :  Thank good you don’t have her for a mother in law.  She can’t cut the cord right? 😉 LMAO.

Post # 43
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Helper bee

When my ex and I were engaged his family treated me terribly. (One of the many reasons why he’s an ex). After  6 years together he did however put a lot of thought into a beautiful proposal and there was a time that I was really looking forward to our life together– when we saw his mom and dad the next day and announced it they just stood there and said nothing. They didn’t congratulate us; they were just rude. I was taken back and asked what’s wrong? His mom went into this ridiculous rant about how her first born should have had her approval before making this life choice (mind you we’re talking about a 30 something year old man, not a teenager) and she continued to rant and carry on. She then insisted that we all go out to eat and pretend this isn’t happening to salvage the rest of our Sunday evening. I was floored. His parents left for dinner and my new fiancé forces me to go out to eat with him and his parents! I was crying and upset and I just wanted to go home. He said he’ll drive me home and instead took us to the restaurant that his parents are at and insists that I go in. Obviously this was an argument, and I stupidly gave in and went in. It was one of the most horrific experiences of my life; not only am I still crying and trying to keep it together but are sitting with the parents, finances brother and his gf who met them there and had no idea what was happening. The whole dinner his mom was carrying on, lecturing my fiancé and making snide comments about how I’m not good enough because she didn’t pick me out for him. My fiancé sat there and literally said nothing to her, let this go on and apologized for not talking with the family first! Obviously the relationship didn’t last after this. I think about it now, years later and still can’t believe how out of line they all were. I really dodged a bullet with that terrible family! 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

Threads like this always make me sad. Like why can’t people just be happy for each other and celebrate each other’s happiest life moment, and not be bitchy and spiteful. I didn’t have anything too bad. Future Sister-In-Law didn’t speak to us for about a week because she didn’t come to the family dinner where we announced our engagement. But she got over it..

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

A few distant friends and acquaintances coming out of the woodworks and trying to reconnect after 1+ years of not talking. I guess for a wedding invite?

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