(Closed) Strapless black dress….yes, no?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think wearing black to a wedding is inappropriate.  It used to be, but I think with the rise in the black bridesmaid dress trend, black has become more acceptable. 

However, with that said, I’m a little worried about the “fitted” and “little” part of the dress you described. It’s a little hard for me to come to a more informed conclusion on if your dress is TOO fitted or TOO little as I don’t have a picture of your dress.  Honestly, if it were me, I’d wear something to a wedding that I would feel comfortable going to church in (whether the ceremony is at a church or not).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s fine personally. A little black dress is appropriate for most events. I would NEVER look at someone at a wedding and be like “OMG she’s wearing a BLACK DRESS! *gasp!*”

NEVER.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it should be fine, as long as it’s not too short, ie. hopefully not like a mini dress where you keep pulling it down to make sure your butt isn’t popping out!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve seen plenty of people in LBDs at weddings. I think you should be fine. It’s not like you’re going in head to toe black mourning clothes.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you’re fine then!  😀

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You should be fine! Trust me, no one will really notice! As long as you don’t show up wearing a funeral hat and gloves, you should be good lol.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve worn black to weddings. No big deal. Just don’t be the guest with the super crazy sexy dress on that everyone whispers about. It’s a wedding, not a club. 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Black USED to be a no-no at weddings, because it was the color associated with funerals and mourning.  There was a time when wearing black to a wedding was a show of disapproval, especially when it was worn by either MOB or more typically, MOG.

However, now there are really only two ways to go wrong with wearing a black dress at a wedding.  One is to be as Miss Tattoo so eloquently described it, being “the guest with the super crazy sexy dress on that everyone whispers about.”  The other is to wear the black dress with all black accessories that meke it look like you are at a funeral.

If you can avoid those two extremes, you should be fine.  And strapless is usually only an issue if the wedding is in a church.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Is it an evening wedding?  Cocktail attire suggested?  If so, it sound like it would be fine.  Just don’t be more dressed up and eye-catching than the bridesmaids.

I had a evening/night wedding in Vegas, and that sort of dress would have been perfect.  I didn’t want my mom to wear black.  (She wanted to.)  I wanted her to stand out more, being the MOB and all.  But other than that, I don’t think it would have been to morose or whatever for a nighttime affair.

Now, if it’s for a garden wedding at noon, you might look like an immodest funeral-goer…

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with Melili and the others.  As long as it is an evening wedding, you will be fine. It certainly doesn’t sound too short and I am a pretty modest person!  if you are concerned maybe you can wear a wrap or something, then take it off if and when it feels appropriate.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Weddings, traditionally were held in the moring until recent years. As they are joyous occasions and held early in the day, the traditional dress called for light colors. 

Also, in the US, and many other western countries, black is a color of mourning.  So it can be seen as an affront to wear black – particularly if you aren’t fond of the relationship.  (My aunt was not thrilled when my parents married.  She wore a black dress to the wedding – and cried so loudly through the WHOLE CEREMONY that the videographer didn’t charge them for his services because the tape wasn’t usable – the pastor and vows coudn’t be heard over the sobbing.  It was inappropriate to wear black in this instance.)

However, black has become a very fashionable color, and if you are attending a wedding that takes place in the evening, and the invitation implies that cocktail attire is encouraged, then black is usually welcomed.

Since you know about the bride’s gown perhaps you’re close enough to know her well enough to know what kind of “feel” she wants for her wedding?  Try to make sure youre dress doesn’t clash with that.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

If black was really taboo at weddings, men would not be allowed to wear black suits/tuxes either. Seriously, enough with the medieval double standards for special occasion wear. Strapless is fine in a non-church setting. Wear whatever you want since the dress you are describing is not inappropriate, no matter what time of day or night.

What other people say is not gospel so try to ignore it since they don’t have any say in what is appropriate or not. People who are offended by it need to get with the times and realize that fashion rules change all the time.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have heard that if the bride’s dress has sleaves, you wear sleaves, if it is strapless, you can wear strapless. Black dresses are very formal and our very accepted for weddings these days, because black is classic.

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